The Holy Relationship

THE AUTHOR OF THIS ARTICLE, writing from her heart of hearts, asks the reader to listen to what is being shared here - with their best listening device, their own heart... knowing that the author intends to bring herself to inner healing, and knows that if she is successful, her reader will feel this healing as well. Through the perspective, the author gives here, in this article - the reader will then see, and feel the love - that is ever present in them and their world.

Three months ago Ananda, the author of this article and her husband and spiritual Partner, John, decided to move in separate directions, and though in her rational ego mind she feels this is perhaps a good thing, the innocence of her being feels very sad. Sad because together they had committed to what A Course in Miracles calls The Holy Relationship.

This article will introduce to you what the term, The Holy Relationship means. The objective here is to bring the author and her world back to her initial objective Unconditional Love (that comes from the commitment to The Holy Relationship) when she began her A Course in Miracles Ministry 14 years ago this December.

What does unconditional love mean?

On Wikipedia.org it says that unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of his or her actions or beliefs. It is a concept comparable to true love, a term which is more frequently used to describe love between lovers. By contrast, unconditional love is frequently used to describe love between family members, comrades in arms and between others in highly committed relationships. It has also been used in a religious context to describe God's love for humankind.

For this author an example of this definition might be first love. First love might have the components of unconditional love. Or the birth of a child or the beauty found in the innocence of the child's first steps might ignite unconditional love.

What memory would bring you to the awareness of unconditional love?

A moment in time when you only felt love or loved... What did it look like?

How did it feel? Can you remember...?

Try, if you will, to remember a time in your life when you felt Love - Unconditional love. Love that had not boundaries, nor did it have reason... you just felt love/d.

This feeling can be aroused in you through a memory you have stored in the special place in your mind where all that you value is kept. The special place in you where Love is eternal. Perhaps you can recall the love you felt when you met your first love or gave birth to your first child. Whatever it is that you can remember that will bring you to that state of feeling love - loved even - I ask you to revisit this feeling of love now, if just for a moment. Feel the love and the innocence that comes from this memory.

Can you feel it? Is time a factor in experiencing this memory? Is the body needed in order to re-member this moment?

I think not. The feeling is timeless and it is not contingent upon a person, a place or a thing. It just is.

The Holy Spirit teaches that you always meet yourself, and the encounter is holy because you are.
- A Course In Miracles

A Holy Relationship is the gateway to the remembrance of unconditional love for it keeps the one committed to it in Love. A Holy Relationship is not for two - though it may be. Its purpose is for one to be vigilant for Love and for God and His kingdom. In A Holy Relationship the one committed sees only God as their Source. Love is born in every moment through this communion of God and His child. This child then sees the Love of God as her only Intent and, as she feels this Love, she shares it with all in her world.

In A Course in Miracles it says that the Holy Relationship is beyond the body that you interposed between you and your brother, and shining in the golden light that reaches it from the bright, endless circle that extends forever, is your holy relationship, beloved of God Himself.

Yesterday, in contemplating Love in relationships, this author had the idea come through her that every relationship - in foundation - is based on The Holy One. Long forgotten, though, and replaced with ego love, which is all about conditions; attraction, emotion, and addiction have replaced this Holy Relationship in mankind.

She saw a vision of a man and a woman as they came together in oneness and she could feel the love for each other as they merged into One Force of Pure Love. It was clear to her that within each of us is the male and the female principle - the yin/yang, in Chinese philosophy. Yin and yang represent the two primal cosmic forces in the universe. Yin (moon) is female, receptive. Yang (sun) is masculine, movement. And, as one becomes love she aligns both aspects of the two back to One and here is where mankind goes back Home to Heaven.

The idea of the two - male and female - Becoming One in Biblical writings is exactly what The Holy Relationship is. The ones committed to re-uniting in Love come together - Uniting the two principles within. This often manifests as a man and woman coming together in relationship. When in perfect balance, this relationship becomes pregnant in Love and from them Love is born through them. This is the story of Adam and Eve before the fall of man. Love comes from this female (yin) principle and male (yang) principle coming together and merging into the one complete expression of Love, and this Love becomes life through the embodiment of perfect union.

In our innate knowing, we all have this desire to bring forth the union of the male and female principle within our own being and unite in Love and here is where Heaven becomes our experience. This idea is synonymous with the parable of The Prodigal Son spoken of in the Bible. This parable is a favorite of the writer of this article because it illustrates most clearly and beautifully the resolution of all conflict in all as they walk the human path. The son goes home to Love or God and Love gives back to Him His True identity. The Holy Relationship is eternal and is reborn in every moment that the perceiver chooses it, as it's only choice. He sees all as reflections of the Love of God.

In A Course in Miracles it says that a relationship, undertaken by two individuals for their unholy purposes, suddenly has holiness for its goal. As these two contemplate their relationship from the point of view of this new purpose, they are inevitably appalled. Their perception of the relationship may even become quite disorganized. And yet, the former organization of their perception no longer serves the purpose they have agreed to meet.

This author feels that this is where relationships lose sight of their innate desire to reunite in perfect Love... for when issues arise that are unlike love, they focus on them, and lose sight of the Intention of The Holy Relationship... which is the basis for all relationships, not re-membering that all that is coming up through the relationship is coming up to leave. For Love expels all that is not like it self. This is what occurred in this author's relationship with her spiritual partner, and this is why there is so much conflict in the world in which we live. We have lost sight of Love and become attracted to what is not like love, and have not made love the goal any longer.

A holy relationship, however newly born, must value holiness above all else. Unholy values will produce confusion, and unawareness. In an unholy relationship, each one is valued because he seems to justify the other's sin. He sees within the other what impels him to sin against his will. And thus he lays his sins upon the other, and is attracted to him to perpetuate his sins. And so it must become impossible for each to see him self as causing sin, by his desire to have sin real. Yet reason sees a holy relationship as what it is a common state of mind, where both give errors gladly to correction, that both may happily be healed as one. So beautifully stated in A Course in Miracles.

It is this author's purpose to bring all she meets to Love's Awareness and she is doing this by re-uniting with The Holy Relationship. She is certain that she will Re-Awaken Mankind to Love and Love will be the only option in The New World.

The Course states it thus: "Teach only love, for Love is what you are."

Will you join with me as I join in Love... in Rebirthing Humanity... to The Holy Relationship?

© Ananda McIntosh, 2008

ABOUT THE AUTHORS

An epiphany in 1995 awakened Ananda to the teachings of A Course in Miracles. She soon became an Inter-Faith minister, began a worldwide Internet ministry and continually experiences miraculous changes in the many lives she touches, including profound healing stories from working in the Aids community.

John has been a student of spiritual philosophy for over 30 years incorporating it successfully into his career as a senior marketing distributor in the Health and Wellness arena. He has inspired many thousands of people worldwide to be the best they could be through his teachings.

Together they have 10 published books including, The TAO of The Secret and its audio version Attunement to Wealth, Health & Happiness. Ananda & John continue to inspire all they meet through what they term Quantum Miracles. Podcasts and articles related to their teachings can be accessed on their web site: www.QuantumMiracles.com. Write Ananda and John at: QuantumMiracles@aol.com.