YOU EVER WONDERED wondered why you feel the way you do - sometimes
happy, sometimes not?
Remember the last time you felt really happy. What was happening? Can
your recall what you were thinking at the time? That's the clue - what
were you thinking? It's my guess that you were thinking
happy thoughts. Happy thoughts make you feel happy. Sad thoughts make
you feel sad. Angry thoughts make you feel angry.
you feel depends on what you are thinking. It's very important to understand
that your thoughts create your feelings. No one else
can think your thoughts; therefore, you are the one who determines how
you feel. And, that also means that you are responsible for your own
happiness. It should be clear, then, to have happy feelings you need to
have happy thoughts.
"But", you say, "Sometimes I don't feel happy. How can
I change my thoughts so I can feel happy again?" First, let me
say that when you are not feeling happy you allow yourself to feel
those feelings. When you allow yourself to feel them for a few moments,
they will pass. All of your feelings are a part of you and they just
want some attention. Just say to yourself, "It's okay to feel this
way". By feeling your unhappy feelings, they will quickly go away.
You can then get back to being happy. To do that, think of something
that makes you happy. Do you have a funny friend? Do you have a special
place that you like to visit? Do you have a favorite food? How about
a cuddly pet? Is there a song that you love to listen to or sing? What
else can you think of that makes you happy?
Another technique to restore happy thoughts would be to repeat to yourself
"I am happy" until you feel happy. It won't take long before
you are smiling again.
I have a friend who has a huge teddy bear with a very comical face.
It's almost impossible to look at the bear without smiling. Do you have
a toy or a stuffed animal with a happy face?
Here's another trick to bring back that happy feeling. Find a friend
and get them to agree to repeat after you the following phrases,
and wait for them to repeat ( ) each phrase before you go on to the
next one. "Ha (ha), ha ha (ha ha), ha ha ha (ha ha ha), ha ha -
ha ha ha ha ha (ha ha - ha ha ha ha ha)". You can make it up as
you go. Before long, you will both be roaring with laughter and feeling
Do you have any ideas that will help others think happy thoughts? If
you do, send them to me and I will share them with the other readers.
So, until next month, think happy thoughts and - be happy.
I. Doyle III, 2004
I. DOYLE III, has over
20 years experience as a corporate executive, career coach, and business
consultant. His book, Before You Think Another Thought, is
dedicated to helping individuals achieve their full potential by having
them realize that itís their beliefs that create their limiting life
experiences. Before You Think Another Thought has been translated
into Spanish, German, and Portuguese. Bruce is the Principal of Growth
Dynamics International and is a member of the Board of Directors of
The San Diego Leadership Initiative and the Corporate Directorís Forum.
He is working on his Doctoral Dissertation, which is focused on determining
the appropriate organizational structure and leadership characteristics
required to support the Children of the New Earth when they enter
the workplace. He can be contacted at IndigoExecutive@aol.com.