ACCORDING TO THE divine design for our life here on Earth, our relationships with each other are intended to be an experience of joyous and loving essence-communion. Though often hidden behind the veil of apparent separation, this fundamental opportunity for meaningful connectedness remains present within us. Deep within our inner core we remember the feeling of true intimacy and our hearts call us to embody it.

One of the ways in which we can transform the patterns of relating that are causing us suffering, and enter more deeply into essence-level resonance, is by healing directly within the chakra cords or 'relationship cords' that connect us energetically to each other. Our relationship dynamics are based on an accumulation of shared physical, emotional and mental experience, and our interpretations and responses to that experience. Those encounters in our past which have been loving and honoring have created a reservoir of positive expectation and response within us, while those experiences which have been cold, cruel or degrading have likewise created a reservoir of painful feelings and beliefs.

The records of all these experiences are held within our chakras, and are present in the energy cords that link us chakra to chakra with each other. These chakra cords are the manifestation of the emotional, physical and mental energy we have exchanged with each other over many lifetimes. They are the expression of all that we have been through together. As such they are an accurate, living record, of the underlying beliefs and patterns at work in any given relationship. A journey into our chakra cords will reveal to us what we truly feel and believe about each person in our life, and what we feel and believe about ourselves in relationship to them.

Often neither distance nor the passage of time is enough to heal the hurts we carry in our chakra cords; the pain of past-lives, of our childhood, and our broken adult relationships all exist here, influencing the way we respond to situations in present time. Everything we believe about life and expect from it is active in these cords, and is played out in our interactions with each other. The healing of our inner pain, and the behaviors that accompany it, requires that we directly face and embrace what is contained within our own energy field. This is the true meaning of self-responsibility in a spiritual sense. Until we meet with love that which is not yet love within us, we remain bound to the past, and are destined by the law of attraction to repeat it.

Healing within the chakra cords sets us free from the past and enables us to live with love fully in the present moment. This depth of healing requires great courage, compassion and honesty, as we agree to meet the very aspects of our personal history that we have tried so hard to forget and 'move on from'. Sometimes during the process we encounter painful aspects of our past in which we experienced the feeling of being a 'victim'. Sometimes we meet moments of time in which we were the aggressor; the one wielding power over another. This form of healing offers us a very deep journey into our own psyche, and into the inner world of the people who have most profoundly affected us.

We may also meet the reality of all the moments of time in which we have been too afraid or too busy to be fully present with ourselves or with our loved ones. These millions of tiny moments of numbness, of missed opportunity, as well as our more dramatic experiences of separation, are healed by the presence of our compassionate awareness brought at last into our chakras and our relationship cords.

Forgiveness, born of emerging insight, is the natural outcome of such healing, though the road to reach this place of mercy may be a long one. In sacred space, set by clear intention, we are able to safely experience what we contain, and at our own pace open all that exists within us to the Presence of love. In this process all that is required of us, at a human level, is our willingness to let love carry us; to let go of the walls we have built to keep pain out but are now limiting our ability to let love in.

The love that ultimately heals us is not a decision of the mind, a cultivated affection, or a passing emotion. It is the transforming and liberating fire of divine consciousness Itself. As we allow this love back into our internal world, intentionally re-claiming space for it, we remember the essence of who we are. We remember at a cellular level the One within us who loves and is loved. The immortal One within us that IS love.

As we release the strands of our blame towards others, or the weight of our own guilt, we finally embrace the real learning calling to us from the very heart of our human experiences. This release is not a denying, minimize or condoning of any harm done, but a deep embracing of our experience in the context of our Soul's journey.

In the heart of this truth we claim our original power - the power of love, and by doing so release ourselves from the cycle of hate and suffering. By divine law, all that we have shut out of our hearts must be returned to it, that we might know our indivisible completeness. Through the healing of our chakra cords we come to see, feel and know the 'inner story' behind our outer experiences. In seeing as God sees, our hearts begin to love as God loves. In this field of grace, karma ends. We finally lay down our sword, and choose Peace.

The healing of our chakra cords can create profound and tangible changes in our daily life. I have found many times following a deep chakra healing, that the person who has been the inner subject of the reverie responds with unexpected communication or a change of attitude. Sometimes within hours of the healing a phone call comes, even after many years of separation. Or a situation that has festered below the surface is finally voiced and shared. Parents and their children (including adult children) find a peace and closeness in their relationship previously thought impossible. Couples find the courage to say goodbye, or to regenerate their relationship with a deeper level of honesty and intimacy. Death and distance make no difference to the effectiveness of this healing. We can resolve issues with those who have died and those who live far away as readily as with those who are in close physical proximity to us.

Because we are working at a core level with patterns of belief and the emotions associated with them, as we heal the dynamics of one relationship, there are positive flow-on effects in other relationships also. We become clearer, more centered, more conscious about the way we are relating in all areas of our life.

Following is a relationship healing meditation that focuses primarily on the cords connecting at the Heart Chakra level. The same format can be used to heal cords between any of the chakras, for example Solar Plexus to Solar Plexus, or Throat Chakra to Throat Chakra. You may find it useful to inwardly scan all your chakras in relation to the person you wish to experience healing with, in this way gaining an overview of the dynamics involved in your relationship.

A CD of this meditation is available from 'The Way of the Innermost Heart' website.

The Way of the Innermost Heart
Relationship Healing Meditation

Relaxation

• Sit comfortably with your spine straight.
• Allow your breath to flow gently and deeply on the in-breath, drawing in an awareness of warmth and softness, expanding your chest as fully as you can, holding for a moment before breathing out completely. Letting go and letting be. Hold the breath out for a moment, experiencing yourself in the stillness, before breathing in again,
• Allow yourself to sink deeper into your heart; into your inner being, letting everything inside you be just as it is.
• Become aware of the ocean of love that surrounds you and supports you at all times. Allow your spine to soften and let go.
• You are pure awareness observing the flow of sensations, thoughts and feelings; allowing them to be what they are.
• Allow the softness and awareness of your heart to flow down into your stomach, abdomen and root chakra.
• Breathe gently and deeply into the lower half of your body, in rapport with your heart.

Attunement and Healing Affirmation

• When you feel ready, become aware of your Column of Light, allowing your consciousness to first flow downwards through your body, following the line of the Column. Ask that your Column be awakened through love.
• Follow the Column out through your Root Chakra at the base of your spine, past your legs and feet, and down into the heart of the Earth.
• In this place of pure consciousness, ask to receive the healing that you need now from the Heart of the I AM Presence, through the Heart of the Divine Mother.
• When you feel ready, bring your awareness back up the Column, into your body. Take a few deep breaths in and out through your Heart Chakra.
• Allow your consciousness to rise upwards along the Column from your Heart Chakra, through the centre of your brain and out through your Crown Chakra. Feel how your consciousness lifts through all the levels of your energy field, to the outermost edge of your field above you.
• Lift even higher in awareness, letting go into the great light of your Soul above you.
• Inwardly, ask to merge with the Heart of your Soul.
• When you feel ready, ask to merge with the Heart of the Christ-Consciousness, and then through this, with the Heart of the I Am Presence.
• Allow yourself to be fully immersed in this love, breathing gently and deeply.
• You are carried by the Heart of the Divine Presence. Everything you need is here for you now.
• Ask for the protection of Archangel Michael, to stabilize and maintain sacred space throughout the meditation.
• Ask to receive healing for the relationship that has been concerning you.
• As you set the intention feel how you open unconditionally to receive the healing and the insights that you need. Surrender yourself completely into the flow of divine love. In this timelessness awareness, healing and transformation of all things is possible.

Relationship Healing

• When you feel ready, ask for the inner presence of the person with whom you wish to experience healing. See them in front of you, accepting whatever form they appear in.
• Allow yourself to feel everything that arises in you as you look at them.
• Sink deeply into the feelings, experiencing your connection to this person just as it is. Remain aware of your heart, and your heart's deepest longing for this relationship. Within this longing is the key to all transformation.
• Ask for your attention to be drawn to the Heart Chakra connection between you and this person. Allow your awareness to be drawn to the point where the cord or cords of energy that exist between you connect into your Heart Chakra.
• Allow your loving and tender awareness to enter deeply into this chakra and this area of your body, embracing the memories, feelings, sensations here.
• Let kindness and mercy fill this place. Ask to experience yourself as the Divine Presence experiences you; to love yourself as the Divine Presence loves you.
• What is it you need here?
• Allow yourself to receive this in your inner reverie, in whatever way feels right for you.
• Sit with tenderness in this place, embracing it fully with love.
• When you feel ready, bring your attention to the person who is the subject of your reverie. Allow your awareness to pass along the cord/s to the doorway of their heart.
• With soft heart, and gentle breathing, ask for permission to experience their heart, and their inner world. If the answer you receive is a 'yes', allow your awareness to flow along the cord/s into their Heart Chakra.
• Open to experience whatever arises, meeting this with kindness and mercy.
• If the answer is 'no', you may dialogue with them and ask them to show you the source of their discomfort. Allow yourself to enter rapport with them, and to share space in whatever way arises.
• Allow yourself to feel how the Divine Presence loves them.
• When you feel ready, bring your awareness to the cord/s.
• From within the cord/s ask that they be healed and transformed.
• Breathe deeply and gently, allowing a softening to occur within your body. Be aware of the healing flowing through your body and the cord/s.
• Affirm, within your body and your breath, your willingness to release the past and open to a new way of relating.
• Stay with the inner process until a feeling of peace and completion arises.
• Allow a deep receiving of love; for a spacious and compassionate awareness to carry both of you into the experience of wholeness.

Completion

• When you feel that the process is complete, give thanks for the healing received. Allow the experience to be bathed in gratitude.
• Prepare to return to daily consciousness by taking a few deep cleansing and centering breaths.
• Ground yourself down fully into your body.
• Open your eyes when you feel ready.

Note: Be aware that the healing process may continue for up to 48hrs and that you may be more emotionally or physically vulnerable than usual.

Be gentle with yourself.

© Helen Eggers, 2006

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Helen Eggers is an internationally recognized speaker, intuitive, and visionary whose purpose is to share the wisdom of the 'Christos Blueprint', and empower a deep awakening of consciousness that culminates in the Ascension. Her work, guided by the Ascended Masters, is focused on immersion meditation and healing practices that awaken our innate divinity, expanding the sacred fire that exists within each atom and cell of our bodies.

She brings two decades of practical experience, compassion and humor to her dynamic lectures and training programs. With a breadth of skills ranging from inner-child healing to the Ascension Yogas, relationship chakra healing to meditation for planetary transformation, she offers a remarkable resource for those seeking an authentic and grounded spiritual practice.

Central to her work is 'Heart of the World' Earth Healing; a powerful energy transmission meditation for planetary awakening. A new paradigm practice that takes us beyond 'channeling' energy; this form of meditation connects us to the fire of love within all creation. It is an experience of the centre within each of us, communing as love, with the centre in all living things.

Helen was ordained as a Peace Minister with the Beloved Community in June 2006, and is currently writing a book The Way of the Innermost Heart, on the theme of awakening and ascension.