INTIMATE AND COMPASSIONATE human relationships offer us a profound gateway into mystical and awakened states of consciousness. As beings of love, it is natural for us to seek communion with one another. Through deepening communion we ultimately enter the experience of divine union; merging with the very Heart of the I Am Presence Itself.

Moments of unified consciousness can be experienced through any relationship which is open-hearted and soul-committed; it may occur in parent-child connections and deep soul-friendships, as well as couple-relationships.

The type of sacred union I would like to explore in this article is that which is specific to couple-relationship; to spiritual intimacy in an adult context. The beauty and power of these experiences is not limited to couples who are soul mates in the traditional sense, and certainly not to 'twin ray' relationships. Such gifts can flower in the life of any couple where both are seeking union with the divine 'Beloved' within, and where there is a conscious commitment to sharing that journey with each other.

When, in such a relationship, we have established a deep trust and openness with one another, together with a profound, shared spiritual longing in the heart to 'go home' within, we create a field of great spiritual opportunity. The Cosmic Beloved is present with us in physical form through our relationship, and we have the chance to experience surrender, communion and union on all planes of existence.

How do we call forth this essence consciousness within us? How do we share this with each other? What happens when we do?

I have found, on my own journey, we call towards us that which we long for most deeply, in context with our karmas and soul-story, and our relationships are no exception. It is our longing which most strongly defines our experience. The way in which our longing finds expression on the physical plane is colored by our beliefs, fears, attachments, and karmas with particular souls.

Because of our individual karmas and sometimes our shared karmic history with our partner, we often face barriers to deeper spiritual intimacy, even when the relationship is clearly the 'right one' for both of those involved. Setting time aside to meditate together, exploring our fears and our longings is an essential practice if we are to move into the deeper levels of intimacy that form the foundation of shared spiritual experience.

During these meditations, in addition to meeting our external relationship issues, we also inevitably meet our own inner 'masculine' and 'feminine' aspects; attributes, qualities and conditioning from the past that still shape our perceptions and our responses to life.

If we are female in this incarnation, we may meet past aspects of ourselves that have been developed in male lifetimes, and if male now, we may meet the memories of past female identities within us. As the process deepens we become increasingly aware of our own history, and any issues that are acting as a barrier to deeper divine surrender.

Wherever we have been abused and our trust has been broken, or we have broken the trust of others, we will meet the need for healing; wherever our faith in the divine has been lost, we will also encounter the need for healing and reconciliation. Wherever we have judged the opposite sex as 'other'; as unsafe or 'less than', we will be called to restore unity. This is true whether we are currently in a heterosexual, gay or lesbian relationship.

In each place within us where our original innocence has been swept away by fear, anger and bitterness, we will be asked to remember the truth of our hearts and choose love again. As we share our wounds with our partner, with self-responsibility and honesty, and are met with kindness in return, we begin to experience a compassionate resonance between our energy fields. Long-held pain is gradually encountered and released within the shared space of unconditional love, and our true essence begins to rise through our chakras. The keynote of our love is felt; our note is sounded through our energy field and through our body. We meet each other essence to essence, and our fields begin to shine and to dance with this exquisite light.

It can be helpful to meditate together at least once a week in this way, to establish compassionate resonance, and I have found that the effects are enhanced if it is combined with tenderness and physical intimacy, such as cuddling skin-to-skin. This is very healing for the primal levels of our field, helping to de-stress the body and activate our natural responsiveness to each other. As tensions decrease and the resonance builds, there may be periods of emotional release by one or both partners. It is helpful to maintain a relaxed heart space, where all is carried gently in the presence of our Souls, rather than trying to problem-solve.

As each successive layer of tension resolves, the energy fields and bodies of both partners begin to melt into one another. It is a remarkable experience to extend this intimacy to love-making in a manner that is totally still; offering a complete experience of each other and one's own inner process.

The next stage is, in many ways, under the auspices of grace, occurring when the timing is right and the longing for such an experience is present in both partners. In this phase both surrender deeply, through the cells of their body, into the present moment, relinquishing thought and letting go of any tendency to shape their experience. This process may arise naturally and spontaneously following emotional release together, orgasm or deeply connected meditation. I have found that for my partner and me it requires the level of relaxation that precedes sleep, or occurs during sleep-state.

In this level of union, awareness increases in such a way that both partners experience themselves being carried by light, in an expanded inter-dimensional space. There is a feeling of complete love and safety; primal fears and identity boundaries dissolve, leaving only consciousness. The two flames of consciousness begin to rotate and spiral upwards together; as they rise, the light and love intensify, until the point of union is reached at the apex of the vortex. A supernova of love is released as the two flames enter the 'Great Light' - the place where there is only One.

Each time we enter this vast 'Sacred Ground of Being', and return through the many dimensions of existence into our physical body, we bring back with us increased divine consciousness; a strengthened observer-self. To know that we are This, to experience our true identity beyond the play of life in form, is to bring to our life a renewed sense of wonder and awe; an enhanced capacity to love and be loved. Feeling the truth of spirit in our very cells and atoms, we are freed from imprisonment in our personal illusions, and empowered to live our lives with a more passionate and compassionate awareness. Returning from the vastness of Spirit we become acutely aware of the ways in which we make our experience here unnecessarily small out of fear, and are inspired to expand the expression of our heart and dance more freely in each moment gifted to us.

For some people this deepening of perception has been catalyzed through near-death experiences; for many in this new cycle of the world, it will come through a meeting of hearts and souls; through a willingness to be tenderly present together in the body, allowing our divinity to flower within our humanity. In this cycle, one of the ways we will enter transcendent experience is through full immersion in the sacred mystery of human intimacy. As we walk this path, the way of sacred relationship, that which has so often been the source of our greatest sorrow will become the wellspring of our greatest joy.

Following is a meditation that can be used by couples to assist in deepening spiritual intimacy.

Couple Meditation
for Divine Merging

Allow plenty of time for this meditation: between one and two hours is recommended. It is best explored when both partners are well-rested.

Begin by sitting facing each other, or lying in each others arms with chakras connecting. (Heart Chakra level with Heart Chakra).

Relaxation

• Breathe deeply in and out, allowing yourself to receive love from the ocean of divine consciousness that surrounds you. Be aware of how you are supported by this love flowing from above, below, behind and before you... completely encompassed by compassion and nourished on all levels of your being.
• On the out breath, feel how you let go of anything within you that
• As you receive and empty, receive and empty... allow your awareness to move deeper and deeper into your heart Centre in the middle of your chest. Feel the longing that exists here, and as you breathe, allow this longing to well up from within your Heart to fill your chest, back and front. If you need to release emotions during this process, do so freely and allow yourself the full experience, gently affirming your choice to return to love; to place all within the Great Heart.
• When you feel ready, begin to breathe the compassion of your Heart up into your neck, throat and head, and down into your stomach, abdomen and Root Chakra at the base of your spine. Feel how your body, back and front, fills with this warmth and softness.
• Where possible breathe in resonance with your partner, for example both focusing awareness in your stomach areas at the same time.

Attunement to Higher Consciousness

• Become aware of your Column of Light, which runs vertically through your energy field, following the line of your spine; with your consciousness placed in the Column, ask that it be healed and awakened by love, supporting this by breathing and relaxing within the Column itself. Allow your consciousness to rise upwards along the Column through your Heart, Head and Crown Chakra. Place your awareness at the outermost edge of your energy field above your head, then allow yourself to lift in awareness into the great light of the Soul above you.
• Inwardly, or aloud together, ask for the perfect union with the Heart of your Soul, through your Soul for perfect union with the Heart of the Christ-Consciousness, and through the Christ-Consciousness for perfect union with the Heart of the I Am Presence.
• Allow yourself to be fully immersed in this love.

Healing Invocation

• I ask that the love of the Innermost Heart, carrying the qualities of the twelve rays, flows into my energy field and that of my partner, healing our relationship and bringing us into deeper divine communion and union with one another.
• Breathe and allow this love to flow.
• I ask Archangel Michael to stabilize and maintain this sacred space throughout the meditation.
• Bring your awareness down the Column of Light, through your body, following the Column as it passes below your feet and down into the Heart of the Earth. Allow yourself to merge with the Heart of the Earth, asking to receive healing and nourishment from the Heart of the Divine Mother.

Transformation

• Bring your awareness back into your body, to the level of your Navel area.
• Breathe in and out through this area, and experience the flow of energy between you and your partner here. Ask inwardly if there is anything that needs healing here (there may be traumas from childhood, past relationships or past-lives, as well as issues between you and your partner).
• Allow any issues that arise to be bathed in love, through your breathing. Insights may come to you, affirmations that are healing for this part of your field, or spontaneous image processes (reverie). Lovingly follow the story that is unfolding for you, and inwardly (in your imagination) do whatever feels most healing. You may wish to share what is happening with your partner. Take as long as you need to complete this inner journey. If you feel stuck in any emotion, you may like to use the simple EFT acupressure technique of rubbing the left side of your chest, approximately a couple of inches below your collar bone (this is sometimes called the 'Sore Spot'). While doing this affirm your love and acceptance of yourself, even with this particular emotion/belief/experience (name the emotion or experience you feel stuck in). This is usually all that is needed to keep the healing flowing.
• Let your partner know if there is anything you would like them to do for you, as part of your healing process. When you both feel complete with this part of the journey, take a few cleansing breaths, and prepare to move to the next phase of the meditation together.
• Repeat the healing process with your Heart Chakra, and then with your Brow Chakra (which is located in the middle of your forehead and connects into the centre of your brain).
• All the way through the meditation communicate as you need to with one another, and respect each other's inner experience and the natural timing of your processes. Trust your intuition. You may naturally wish to keep your eyes closed during some parts of the meditation, or to look softly into each other's eyes when this feels right for you.

Note: To be heard, to be accepted, and to be held in unconditional love by another is very healing in itself, and many issues can be resolved in this way. Be sure to retain connectedness to your inner wholeness, and the sweetness of your essence throughout this process. Even if facing painful truths during the session, resolve to meet these with compassion and the conscious choice to transform the experiences, rather than clinging to blame or guilt. As we return our pain to love, the door to awakened consciousness opens.

Communion

• In preparation, allow your awareness to sink deep within your Column of Light.
• Ask that your essence fill you, and radiate through your energy field to experience communion with your partner's essence. As both of you set this intention, a sacred space is created for your Souls to incarnate and experience each other more fully.
• With deep, gentle breathing, and the affirmation of a conscious 'yes' to the complete experience of 'this moment' together, your fields will open to each other to the degree that you are now ready. Surrender as fully as you can to the experience that arises.
• Allow this experience to unfold naturally, and accept it just as it is. Each time you do this meditation it will be different. Just as we are forever changing moment by moment, so too our dance together ebbs and flows.

Union

• At this point in the meditation you may wish to just rest together in the feeling of love that has been created through your combined Soul Presence. Allow yourself to
• If you want to deepen your connection further you can do so by asking inwardly, or aloud together, that you seek to experience the I Am Presence within your partner and yourself.
• Breathe and surrender into the experience that arises; again allowing all that happens to be just as it is. The I Am Presence will respond in the way that is right for you both at the time. Grace will move in sometimes unexpected ways to meet your deepest needs; revealing the mystery of love, consciousness and sacred relationship in the manner that is most healing for you.
• When you feel the experience drawing to a close, take a few deep cleansing breaths to assist with integration throughout your energy field.
• Let your heart, mind and body rest in the resonance of gratitude; giving thanks for the gifts received.
• Ensure that you have grounded yourself fully into your physical body before opening your eyes. It is beneficial to drink plenty of water following the meditation, and if possible, to spend time sitting on the earth or walking barefoot to assist with grounding.

It may take several days to fully integrate the experience, and you may feel more open and vulnerable than usual.

Be gentle with yourself and each other.

© Helen Eggers, 2006

Editor's Note: This will be Helen Eggers' last article for a short time while she takes a break to enjoy the New Zealand summer. Stay tuned; she'll be back!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Helen Eggers is an internationally recognized speaker, intuitive, and visionary whose purpose is to share the wisdom of the 'Christos Blueprint', and empower a deep awakening of consciousness that culminates in the Ascension. Her work, guided by the Ascended Masters, is focused on immersion meditation and healing practices that awaken our innate divinity, expanding the sacred fire that exists within each atom and cell of our bodies.

She brings two decades of practical experience, compassion and humor to her dynamic lectures and training programs. With a breadth of skills ranging from inner-child healing to the Ascension Yogas, relationship chakra healing to meditation for planetary transformation, she offers a remarkable resource for those seeking an authentic and grounded spiritual practice.

Central to her work is 'Heart of the World' Earth Healing; a powerful energy transmission meditation for planetary awakening. A new paradigm practice that takes us beyond 'channeling' energy; this form of meditation connects us to the fire of love within all creation. It is an experience of the centre within each of us, communing as love, with the centre in all living things.

Helen was ordained as a Peace Minister with the Beloved Community in June 2006, and is currently writing a book The Way of the Innermost Heart, on the theme of awakening and ascension.