IN CASE YOU didn’t notice we are “at war.” I don’t choose to watch television that often, yet I still feel the war. War is an interesting choice. I honor those who choose to serve our country big time. I do not honor the choice to fight hate with hate. Fight interrogation with interrogation. Not a big fan of that anywhere, here or another country.

One night I was sitting outside watching the stars and two kids were rolling by on their skateboards. “ I am going to kick his ass if he takes my hat from me,” he screamed.

“Yeah…let’s go threaten him,” the friend joyfully replied.

Wow. Here we are “at war” and we are not even seeing the war on our blocks. The war within each and every one of us.

The rules and the battles we create within our own selves. The need to be right, heard, validated, successful, the winner, the best…the list goes on and on. And the illusion goes on and on. It hit me that night as I was saddened by the skateboarding kids, that war is based on righteousness.

W. e’re A. lways R. ight
The need to be right outweighs the need to disagree with love and respect. I don’t agree with how our president sees things and creates fear, yet I respect him. I don’t agree with focusing on the “outside” and not recognizing the WARS we create moment to moment.

I was in war with my body for years, constantly wanting it to look and be prettier, better, thinner, you name it. Then I went outside and compared my body to other women, I was in WAR with them, trying to be just as sexy, cuter, thinner and “wanted.” This is energy based out of the illusion that we need each other’s approval. Trust me, when I finished my book, there was a huge part of me that wanted EVERYone to love, love, love me, and adore my truth.

As time went on, I began to remember that life is not about getting everyone to be on my team and agree with me. Life is about making choices that express me fully, in all areas, and not being attached to being RIGHT, accepted, perfect and that good ol’ word “ENOUGH.”

Yikes.

I don’t want to be “right” about how you SHOULD live your life. I don’t want to be right about how you should love me. I choose to live my own life, follow my own heart, and accept that we are all here to experience our own luscious journeys.

Self help books perpetuate the WARS within us; constantly telling us that something is broken and needs to be fixed. Ten steps to this or that. How to be this or that. Why?
Why is our president attached to who falls in love with who? Why is it a concern if someone isn’t living how he or she “should” live? Why are we demonstrating that WAR is the only way to our kids? When, clearly, it is not. On Jenny Ward Island, there is no need to be right, or battle another or yourself. There’s a deep understanding that we are all ONE. That bombing another country is bombing our own. That taking away someone’s “right” to marry their beloved just because they are the same gender is taking away your own free will to LOVE. It all comes back, full circle, and we can begin to create a circle of love, not righteousness. Look within to see if you are creating energy towards WAR. Lovingly, breathe and ask yourself where you want to place your energy.

I wake up each day, and choose to be love, even when the world is choosing to be WAR. Especially then. I have people constantly wanting to “battle” or be right with me. Debating with such force and need to be right that I find it playfully funny now. For we are all “right”… yes, we are alright! Your life is yours to live. You are the author of your story and you can create a war epidemic or a juicy, loving, never-ending journey.

Notice where you support others. Notice why you support the WAR we are creating on a grander level, and what feelings come up. Don’t label or place expectations just be. When someone needs you to do things and believe in their way, simply choose to see how it makes you feel. If you are in turmoil inside, it probably isn’t for your highest good. The illusion in our culture that we “have no choice” is coming to an end. What we choose on an individual level is what creates WAR or MAGICAL HEAVEN. It’s actually that simple. The more magic I choose in each moment, the less WAR I have in my life.

Invite magic into your space and you will always be supported.

© Jenny Ward, 2005