I WAS SPEAKING WITH A CLIENT a month or two ago and something Rebecca said to me unquestionably caught my attention. "Yes, I am overweight," she said; "but I feel comfortable with my body this way." At first, her energy field appeared to respond in accordance with her words. Meaning, there were no sudden spikes that shot off from the core of her electro-magnetic field; which, as a medical intuitive, is typically signals that there are incongruencies a foot.

She then immediately stated, "When I am any thinner, I do not like the attention I receive from men. Also, I don't like feeeeeling everyone's energy all the time. So I like this weight. It keeps me safe." Well, the sparks may have been slow to start; however, the fourth of July fireworks display began playing itself out in her energy field with those comments.

On one hand, she was comfortable with her weight. She and most of her body were quite convinced her weight was serving a good and higher purpose; and there was a true sense of comfort and control in the purpose being served. This of course, brought about an honest sensation of peace and contentment. All was well in her world; at least on the surface. Fortunately, her current state of health did not reflect any harm or apparent physical compromises.

Nonetheless, the emotions that were generated from her statement regarding "hiding from attention and other people's energy" indeed created energetic spikes and undulations which flew in multiple directions off from her body. These energy sparks swirled in a particularly strong fashion within her emotional energy field. Thus, creating highly-charged eddies of energy and the attendant emotions when she spoke about the weight keeping her safe and out of the line of intentional, steely, or luring glares. It all spoke volumes about what was really bothering her.

In another instance, years ago, I spoke with an attractive, twenty-something female college student who had just started dating a young man. Jean's friends could sense something was up with this guy and warned her that he was not right for her. She just wanted to feel loved and liked the attention she was getting; so she went along with her plans of dating him. One day on campus, while walking back to her car after class, this young man and one of his friends were walking about ten paces in front of her. They did not see Jean as she strolled behind them. She overheard them talking about this young man's upcoming wedding. Obviously, Jean was not the bride-to-be.

Jean was devastated. How could she have been so blind? To have been dating him for a couple of weeks and then to find out that he had been engaged for six months was demoralizing and humiliating. She got to her car feeling both very angry at herself and him. She was very sad. She immediately drove to a Dairy Queen and ordered what is called a Hot Fudge Boston. Now this is not ordinary ice cream treat. It is a hot fudge milk shake and then they add ice cream into the center cup and pour hot fudge on top of that. Yikes!!!

This young woman was trim and healthy. But after this experience she put on weight. She gained more and more weight. She had to forgive herself. She needed to understand that this guy was a jerk; and his behavior was not her fault. There was nothing wrong with her, except an error in judgment due to an over-powering desire to feel loved. That is what needed to be put into balance for her through gaining self-love and acceptance.

These two women suffered impacts that I see all too often. Sensitive people often experience the effect of having another's energy impact their energy centers. We all do from time to time. When you do not have sufficient energetic boundaries due to lack of awareness, practice, or fatigue, emotions can create an energetic response and negative behaviors can take over to appease the feeling.

If you have been around some energy that has been impactful and highly charged emotionally, it can take up energetic housekeeping within your electro-magnetic field or within your body's vortices of energy (a chakras or meridians). Later, if not addressed and moved out, it can create a pathology that will move into your cells. If you're sensitive or engaging in any art of healing or service to others, in my view, you must keep your body moving daily and move your energy as well. It is up to you to monitor your energy and keep yourself in balance.

To sustain a dynamic flow and balance in your energy you can get acupuncture and have another do hands on healing if you like. It is important for you to be nurtured by others. However, the most important component of your health and self-esteem is to be able to handle it by yourself. Practice Qi Gong, Tai Chi, Yoga, or any energy exercise that keeps the flow going.

In my book, Intuitive Wellness; Using Your Body's Inner Wisdom to Heal there are many exercises to help you. One in particular can help when you if you are impacted by something in the moment, such a Jean's sudden surprise about the man she was dating.

To briefly explain how to do this exercise: center yourself, even if you are emotional in the moment. Feel where the emotions are located within your body. Ask this part of your body, what color(s) of energy you need right now to balance this impact. Whatever your intuitive mind offers you, run with it. Ask how many times you need to breathe those colors in to that area of your body in the moment. Listen, and trust what your intuitive body tells you. Repeat as needed.

You will find that this exercise takes the immediate sting out the situation and does not allow the initial impact to settle into your body or its energy centers. If you can keep that from happening, the pressure from the impact does not affect your emotional well-being as strongly. You are self-empowered and therefore your self-worth and self-esteem doesn't take a backseat because you "knew" how to take care of yourself right away.

Both women had put on weight over the years to protect themselves and to punish themselves for their lack of judgment; and there was no shortage of judgment. They had been layering it on, along with the pounds, for years.

In these cases our two dear women friends could release this type of issue by primarily looking at the second and third chakras for their deepest healing. Yes, you may say the heart chakra is the one to focus on, because Jean especially wanted to be loved, and I would not disagree with that focus. With that being said, however, I respectfully add that it is the second chakra that drives your sense of taste. Therefore, this sense of taste governs the way in which you choose the obvious - food and your relationships to all things - including your energy and boundaries. The second charka is your problem solving energy or the energy you use to justify your position. It is the energy for the way in which your tastefully, gracefully enter and exit from relationships.

Without a strong sense of self, the third chakra, you could find yourself in these types of situations all the time, especially if you're sensitive and intuitive and have not established a strong send of self from which comes strong and empowered energetic boundaries.

As in Rebecca's case, when people are sensitive and feel energy coming toward them, from whatever source, they tend to jump to conclusions. Presumptive judgments come screaming into your mind. It's a defense mechanism. When you feel energy coming toward you the first response is, "What is that? Where is it coming from?" Once that is determined, and that can happen quickly or not, the next question that arises is usually, "What are they thinking of me?"

All too often, those series of statements create anxiety or uneasiness within you. You search very quickly through your personal data banks of information, trying to match the feeling response to the incoming energy and the emotional response that best supports it. Unfortunately, if you're sensitive but do not have intuitive discernment regarding what's what, you'll go into the "negative and self-critical" file drawer and find the right self-defeating, emotionally charged statement that will fuel the emotions that are about denying your right to be you.

So what are some of those internal self-defeating statements? We all know them, and most of them, if you perceive you have a weight issue - which may or may not be true - you start picking those out as the defense mechanism. Immediately, you'll start sabotaging yourself with emotional eating. You may go for crunchy/salty if you're angry or frustrated. Or head for ice cream, chocolate, and soft creamy sugary items if you're depressed. There are chemicals, textures, and flavors that provoke chemical ease and comfort in the body from those foods, so don't think you're completely out of control. Your body is trying to balance itself. You, however, have to lead the charge for the appreciate foods and not match the energy of negative emotions with the lower energy of nutritionally poor foods.

If you want to feel better, mindfully choose foods that resonate with the energy that you want to feel; not the foods that match or disguise the moment's negative vibes you are feeling. Go for the good stuff; and most of you know what that is.

Next time you've had a bad day and feel overwhelmed with everybody else's demands and energy; or just feel a little out of sorts (or out of your body) run some energy through your body and make certain that when you do eat, you choose foods that match the energy of where you want to be; not where you perhaps are in the moment. Don't be fooled by the sugar vibe; it's high and tight. It will fool you into believing that it will supply you with the energy you need. The little darling sugar is a natural magnet because of that. It's energetic! However, we all know that it doesn't fuel, nourish, or last.

My final point is not matter what your body size or shape you are a joyous unique being filled with love and are here to be in service, in one way shape or form. Trust yourself and learn to develop your energetic boundaries through a strong sense of self. You have a right to be here and more than that, you have an obligation to share your gifts with the world. Monitor yourself. You know when you are pushing, hiding, or running away from something or someone. Be honest and commit to your being here, fully.

© Laura Alden Kamm, 2007

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Laura Alden Kamm is a medical intuitive and intuitive structuralist. She is the author of Intuitive Wellness: Using Your Body’s Inner Wisdom to Heal. She is the founder of the Center for Applied Energy Medicine. www.energymediicne.org