"All the tools I had developed to help me process my feelings and cope with them no longer worked."

Read the rest of the series in the weeks to follow:

Part 1: Introduction to relationships in the new age

Part II: Relationships as mirrors

Part III: The cooperative love of karma

Part IV: Soul relationships

Part V: Partnering with your higher self

Part VI: Conscious, co-creative relationships

Part VII: Attracting relationships

Part VIII: Assisting others

Part IX: New age sexuality

Part I : Introduction to relationships in the new age

by Michael Jorgensen

Betrayal. Jealousy. Envy. Grief. Rage. Hopelessness.

These are just a sample of the intense feelings I have experienced over the last several years as the result of my relationships. "Intense" does not effectively describe the process I went through – my very core turned inside out from the depth, profundity and fierceness of my emotions. Overwhelmed from the physical, mental and spiritual effects of these feelings, they continued nevertheless, for seemingly endless periods of time that drifted from months into years.

At the end of one of my relationships I told myself I would grieve for, say, three months, and then be done with it. To my shock, my grief deepened. I found myself crying uncontrollably and with child-like abandon a few times a day, sometimes even waking up in the middle of the night to discover myself crying. I didn't even know why I was crying any more. All the tools I had developed to help me process my feelings and cope with them no longer worked. I realized I had never grieved before.

Later, another relationship ended after a couple of difficult years of trying to resolve our differences. We stayed friends and twelve months later found ourselves and our relationship transformed. For me, it was the kind of partnership that I had wanted from the beginning, and I found myself in love again. To my joy we returned to having a sexual relationship, and I felt that all the challenging inner work had been worthwhile. I was with my life partner! A week later my partner fell in love with someone else – I was abandoned. I discovered I had never tasted betrayal, jealousy and rage before.

I saw dozens of friendships begin and end, until I no longer attached myself to friendships as I used to. I was beginning to think there was something terribly wrong with me.

Over the last half decade, every issue I thought I had dealt with years ago resurfaced with a vengeance. After having spent the decade before in therapy, writing about and resolving my childhood issues in reams of journals, and reading hundreds of self-help books, I thought I had let go of my past and healed most of my issues. But I discovered that I had only touched the surface of my deepest core beliefs about the universe and myself.

I was not the only person experiencing this. Eventually my friends went through similar intense emotional upheavals. They too were dumbfounded by the intensity of their reactions to life events. Previously they had considered themselves, like I did, to be balanced and mature individuals. Perhaps you, the reader, can relate. So what's going on?

The new age, the new energy

Welcome to the new age! We are in the midst of one of the most wondrous events to occur in the universe. We are graduating to a new era. The earth and all her inhabitants are being raised to a higher vibration so that we may ascend to higher dimensions and reconnect with our Higher Selves. The veil is being lifted and we are becoming conscious of our Oneness while living in three-dimensional physical form.

The increased energy of the earth causes our emotional, mental and physical bodies to vibrate at a higher degree, loosening up any remnants of unresolved, false core beliefs. These false core beliefs are dense and create blocks, so the higher vibration energy is unable to flow unobstructed through the vessels of our bodies. The density of our core issues, when shaken up, release to be experienced and healed. We are not only processing the false core beliefs we have fabricated in this life, but also those we carry from past lives.

It is no wonder that so many of us are experiencing such turmoil in our lives and relationships. I have stared each phantom of my karma in the face, and learned not to fear it. Being consumed by low frequency feelings such as anger, fear, rage and envy, I fell apart and combusted. But I soon discovered that I had been rebuilt with a stronger foundation. The fire did not consume me; it purified me.

The higher vibration energy purifies our entire being, so that our physical selves may ascend to the planes of the spirit.

Every form of relationship is affected by the new energy. Our relationship to ourselves, as well as others, is undergoing transformation. Having managed to live through the last several years, I am blessed to discover what purpose these experiences held for me. I have developed new tools and discovered gifts with which to engage in life. Most importantly, I have developed a new relationship with myself.

By the time the earth changes are complete, we will consider ourselves to be entirely different creatures by the way we relate to others and ourselves. Old energy models of relationship, such as mirroring, are being shattered, because we are developing new models based on individual wholeness. Through the process of purification our karma is being experienced to the degree that is necessary, then voided. We are awakening to a conscious co-creation of relationship, based on a partnership with our Higher Self.

Relationships in the new age

In this eight part series, "Relationships in the new age," I share my journey and insights. I begin with an examination of the old energy relationship paradigm of mirroring, distilling from it the essentials - understanding the denied aspects of our selves, and how mirroring reflects the miraculous cooperation and co-creation of reality. "Relationships as mirrors of self" is the doorway into our journey, and sets the foundation for a relationship with our Higher Self.

In "Letting go of karma" I explore the higher purpose and genealogy of karma and how it is intricately linked to relationships and false core beliefs. There is a higher cooperative love at work in karma – it reveals to us the illusions of our core beliefs about our selves and the universe. Karmic releasing can be clearly identified by looking for particular characteristics. In this article I examine these characteristics, and discover ways to cope with the intensity of its expression and how to release it.

In "Partnering with your Higher Self" I look at the new energy and its positive effect on the connection with our Higher Self. There are unique features to this connection, including the ability to see from the perspective of our greater being. This allows us to place a transforming gaze on others, the world and ourselves. Our egos begin to make friends with our Higher Self, surrendering the opposing relationship of the old energy. Our attachments to others begin to dissolve, because we discover our wholeness.

What does a new age relationship look and feel like? In "Conscious, co-creative relationships" and "Soul mates, twin flames, complements, and love contracts" this very question is discussed. The dissolution of the subconscious allows for a greater personal responsibility in what we think and believe about others. Our projections become those of love and faith in the other. Harmony-based relationships, the model in the new age, allow the fulfillment of love contracts. These relationships raise us and everyone around us to even higher states of consciousness and love. Different, too, are our friendships and relationships with those with whom we cross paths. The connection to our Higher Self brings spiritual gifts of insight and wisdom. Our words become messages of transformation and healing to those who listen. Our relationships are always appropriate because we are aligned with divine will. The creative variety of the expression of love in the new energy will forever keep this discussion, "What does a new age relationship look and feel like?" dynamic and alive.

How we can create a new age relationship is the topic of "Attracting a relationship in the new energy." Forget searching or looking outside of yourself. Within each of us is an inner magnet that brings to us whatever we are ready to accept or called to by divine will. Soon, the question "How do I create a relationship?" will cease to exist, because it is based upon a belief in separateness and lack of wholeness.

As lightworkers we are among the first to experience these changes. In "Assisting others" I discuss the fact that we have had no guidebook to follow. At times we step blindly, with faith, on the path of transformation. Though we are the first to experience the pain and fear, we are also the first to experience the gifts and blessings of our metamorphosis. This puts us in the position of being able to assist those who follow to more comfortably cross the bridge from the old energy into the new.

It is my desire that this series may provide some insight and stimulate conscious reflection on relationships, so that together, we may co-create relationships in the new age.

©2000, Michael Jorgensen. Printed in the March 2000 Issue of Planetlightworker. http://www.planetlightworker.com (Feel free to duplicate this article for personal use - please include this copyright notice.)