Relationships in the New Age is an eight week series.

• Part 1: Introduction to relationships in the new age
• Part II: Relationships as mirrors
• Part III: The Cooperative Love of Karma
• Part IV: Partnering with your Higher Self
• Part V: Conscious, co-creative relationships
• Part VI: Soul mates, twin flames, complements, love contracts
• Part VII: Attracting relationships
• Part VIII: Assisting others

Part III : The cooperative love
of karma

by Michael Jorgensen

Although we select our karmic core issues, our lives are an ongoing creation. How our lives unfold depends upon our choices of free will. We always have the choice to believe something different. And when we do, we attract a probable reality that corresponds to our new internal reality and belief. All beliefs hold an electromagnetic charge, and these converge harmoniously with a like-charged probability.

Limitless probable realities are created on an ongoing basis in our daily lives and are always accessible. The creation of probable or alternative realities involves the loving cooperation and coordination of all beings in a non-physical dimension of existence. We are in constant telepathic communication with one another and cooperatively create our physical reality and experiences together, moment by moment. When one person changes their belief and thereby his or her electromagnetic vibration, it changes the experience of reality for everyone, because a new probability is attracted into existence. It is coordinated by the Higher Selves of every being on earth and in the celestial realms.

The closed energy system of karma
In the high energy of the new age, false core belief karma from not only this life, but also past lives, is agitated out of us. The higher vibration releases these issues from the memory of our body and into our emotional and mental bodies. The electromagnetic pattern of false core belief karma is a looping, closed energy system.

The looping electromagnetic pattern is experienced as a feeling reaction to a situation. This isn't an ordinary reaction. It is a triggered reaction of great intensity and emotional force. Once the situation that triggered the reaction continues, the emotional reaction increases to the point where it feels nearly uncontrollable. Accompanying the feeling reaction is an obsessive mental pattern associated with the situation. When triggered our minds think about the situation that caused it, in an endless loop, so we re-experience our feelings even more intensely.

The obsessive mental pattern involves a justification of our feeling — why we are entitled to our anger, jealousy, betrayal, envy or hatred. It is inconceivable at this point to imagine that our reaction is not appropriate. We continue to feel victimized by the situation, and there are two ways we deal with it. We forcefully push at the other person to stop their behavior that triggers us, or we disassociate — deny and/or ignore that the situation exists. Usually the situation involves both polarities of reaction, further triggering each person to continue reacting in the same manner.

False core belief karma is challenging to step out of and heal with a new belief, because of its closed, looping energy system. The first step is to identify that you are caught in a repetitive pattern, and then you can take action to remove yourself from it. Let me share with you my process.

Co-create inner peace
I have found it important to remove myself temporarily from the situation, in order to deal with my feelings. This takes practice and awareness. I became aware of how my body feels when I am triggered. For me it begins as a hot, burning sensation that emerges from the center of my belly, and begins expanding outward. I have about one minute to remove myself from the situation before I act on my trigger. I tell whomever I am with, "I have been triggered, and I need to leave to take care of my feelings."

People will often try to get me to stay, but in response I say, "No, it is better that I leave right now."

I then leave. This is wonderful because I do not project my feelings onto others. I have nothing to clean up later.

Then out loud, or in my mind, I say to myself, "I co-create peace" (a wonderful idea I gleaned from the Kryon). And I continue to repeat this statement. It may not produce results for a while, but it assists me to get in touch with my feelings.

Usually a powerful memory emerges and it becomes clear to me how I felt as a child. I recognize that the source of my current pain, and its intensity, originated from events in childhood.

Now I am getting to the core of the feeling. And the feeling is the result of a false belief.

Core Beliefs of Karma
Trigger reactions are not a result of the current situation I am in. Objectively, the emotional reaction is inappropriate to the situation. Although it is very difficult to accept this idea, I remind myself that when I am in my power I would not react the same way.

When not in power, I am holding false core beliefs. These include:

• I am not loved.
• I am unworthy of love.
• I never get what I want because I do not deserve it.
• I am deserving of punishment.
• God does not love or support me.
• God does not exist.
• I am not powerful. I am a victim.
• The universe is unjust, chaotic and meaningless.
• The universe is limited — it is not abundant.
• I am alone and separate.
• I have no place in the universe.
•I am what I do. I am what I have.
•I am not responsible for my feelings, actions and thoughts.
• I am not whole.

I may then choose to share my process with the other person. I take responsibility for my feelings. And let the other know they are not the cause of my feelings.

Healing karmic core beliefs is not an overnight process for me. In fact, it often takes me weeks, months or even years. I am fighting a dragon, over and over, until I emerge victorious. There is no easy way to get through karmic core issues. Affirmations are of little help in these situations until we get to the root of the problem and experience the pain.

When my karmic core issue is replaced with a belief closer to the truth, I neutralize the looping, electromagnetic pattern. Near the end of the healing process, I am able to recognize when I step into the looping pattern, and make a conscious choice to step out of it. I refuse to feel worry, fear, anger, betrayal or jealousy. It is an illusion and not worth my energy. I walk through or leave situations without being triggered. I choose peace.

Accessing the original triggering experiences and feelings
Sometimes accessing the original situation that causes your trigger is difficult, and may require the assistance of facilitators. Traumatic experiences and feelings become lodged in the body, and may be effectively blocked from memory. While it may not be important to remember the experience, it is very important to experience the original feelings — even when we know what the core issue is about.

In my experience, the new energies insist upon the emotional release of the original feelings from the body. There are many therapies available, and many people have told me that they use several healing modalities in the process of healing. I recently used a massage therapist who used deep tissue massage and the healing energies of kundalini to help me remember the origin of my fears when I was a baby. Follow your inner guidance as to what kind of facilitation you need. Another technique I found helpful is a past life regression.

Karma and Past Lives
Sometimes it isn’t enough to understand the purpose of a relationship from the perspective of mirroring or core beliefs. Its purpose remains unresolved. Even though you have analyzed your relationship, discovered your patterns, understood how your childhood, family and peer experiences influenced you to develop particular core beliefs; you still have a sense of something missing — an understanding of the situation from a larger spiritual perspective. It may then be helpful to examine a past life or lives.

When the larger meaning of a relationship confounds us, and time doesn’t heal us; when we question the existence of "good orderly direction" in the universe, and our deep seated beliefs and trust in universal forces are uprooted; when our questions are not resolvable by the usual tools, then looking into a past life may be required to finally understand the purpose and meaning of our relationship.

The sudden death of a loved one, abusive experiences in childhood or adulthood which seem incomprehensible, or relationship dynamics for which there is some understanding but no healing, are a few examples of situations in which a deeper look into who we are and what we are made of is needed. Always follow your guidance. It will tell you if this is the path to take.

One of my relationships required me to explore a past life and understand the lessons of love that karma had for me, before I was healed. There were aspects of the relationship that I could not resolve that involved the bigger picture. I felt that we were meant to be together — we were very special soul mates — but the relationship ended anyway. Either my feelings are wrong and I cannot trust them, or the universe made a mistake and I cannot trust it. I could not accept either conclusion. The questions I had could not be answered by traditional psychology, mirroring, or the current understanding I had of my core beliefs.

In order to access my past life, I needed to trust my feelings and imagination.

Honoring Subjectivity
One of the ways in which we deny our divinity and wholeness is through rejecting our thoughts, feelings and perceptions — our subjectivity. Our scientific culture distrusts anything that is not provable, rational and concrete, and therefore we disassociate large aspects of our self and do not experience our wholeness. We listen to others to find our truths, instead of becoming intimately involved in a relationship with ourselves.

Trusting and honoring all our feelings, thoughts, imaginings and perceptions
is the doorway to experiencing our wholeness. Our imagination
is the gateway to coming to know our deepest selves.

I was seeing a facilitator to help me to learn how to contact my guide when I had my first past life experience. During a deep relaxation exercise, the facilitator asked me to think of an unresolved situation in my life that caused me pain. I was to take this to my guide and ask it to show me how this might be connected to a past life.

At this stage in my spirituality I was very skeptical of the past life idea. I had never felt an affinity for the concept. But I was willing to go along with the facilitator and try this experience. After all, I believed in guides!

So I thought of my unresolved relationship, and took the request to the being of light I imagined in my mind. Suddenly I found myself looking down from the sky at an island that was heavily forested. It was a lush green, moist and surrounded by the sea. The next image I had was of being in the forest, on the ground, surrounded by the tall trees. The facilitator asked me where I was and I said, "Ireland. 1658." A part of me was experiencing this, and another part of me was detached and incredulously watching this unfold.

"What are you wearing?" he questioned. I looked down at my legs and discovered that I was wearing brown, worn, leather pants and shoes, and that my coat was also of the same brown leather. I was male.

"What are you doing there?" the facilitator asked. Again, the feeling and thoughts arose in me, full of emotion this time. I was waiting for someone. I was waiting for the woman I loved deeply. But we could only meet in secret, because we belonged to different religions.

"Who is this woman?" he asked. Again, I knew immediately that this woman was my partner, in a different lifetime. Then a whole flood of feelings and thoughts came over me and I knew what had happened.

I had fallen deeply in love with this woman but it was unrequited love, because we could not be together due to societal sanctions against it. I felt that she was my soul mate, and that God had brought us together. But it would have been too dangerous for us to be together. I was to live with this unrequited love for the rest of that life, and never forget her.

I understood that my partner, Chris, and I agreed to play out this situation again in this life together. I had never healed or resolved the pain from my past life.

The facilitator asked me, "What was it that you were supposed to learn from this situation?" Tears welled up in my eyes from the great love and selflessness with which Chris had agreed to play this role with me again. I was to understand the eternity of our connection. I knew Chris then, I know Chris now, and I’ll know Chris in the future. Separation is an illusion. We are forever together in love.

In the past life in Ireland, I had concluded that God was punishing me, and that I am not worthy of love.

A peace lived in my soul as I left the facilitator’s office. Instantly the purpose of our relationship was made clear, at a deep, emotional level. I was at peace, and I knew that the universe is good, safe, trustworthy, orderly, meaningful, purposeful and profoundly loving. I could trust my feelings because they had been right all along. Chris and I were contracted to be together. And our relationship was meant to end the way it did.

The past life remembrance felt like it could have been a creative act of my imagination. But the emotional healing and feelings I experienced were very real. I let go of the pain and sadness I felt from the relationship.

There are infinite ways in which karma is created and overlayed onto a present life for the opportunity to heal. Karma is always a cooperative lesson of love — a lesson played out between our higher selves. Its purpose is to give us the opportunity to surrender the illusions of false beliefs about ourselves and the nature of the universe.

All of heaven and earth conspire to return us to love.

Next month I write about "Partnering with your Higher Self." The process of identifying with our Higher Self is more easily achieved when many of our karmic core issues are released, and we are more easily able to exist in a state of peace. We can then experience more of the bliss and power of our soul.

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