Because you are in relationship with all that is, as you heal, you raise the vibration of all that is.

Before coming to earth you took on specific karmic core issues and challenges so that you could heal them not only in yourself and relationships, but also in the whole world. As you heal, you make it conceivable and increase the probability for others to experience healing and fulfillment in the same areas. You manifest new ways of thinking and being, a new reality, and a new frequency for others to tune their mental receivers to and begin receiving a new channel. Think of it as HTV - the Heaven Channel. The more attention this channel receives the higher its ratings. The telepathic network, which governs our earth, will devote more of its energy resources to a stronger frequency, more enlightening programs, and increase HTV's advertising and distribution.

The higher state of consciousness you develop in your healing process creates a strong partnership with your higher self. You open yourself to being lead by divine will. Divine will is the essence of our higher self, and of all that is. Surrendering to divine will and allowing it to flow through the vessel of your mind and body, you not only experience more of heaven on earth in your relationships and daily life — you are guided to assist others.

Divine will works cooperatively with your physical self. You are the master at living in physical reality — you are the expert of feelings and thoughts, and being human. Your divine nature draws upon your human expertise to give assistance to your brothers and sisters. Every moment of your time on earth and of your healing process can be accessed by you, to provide understanding, insight and compassion to others. No experience is ever wasted. Everything has a purpose.

Assisting others as a new human, with divine guidance

How do you know if you are assisting others from a place of higher guidance? It is said "God works in mysterious ways," but as you integrate your human and divine selves, the mystery unveils itself to you, moment by moment. The following are some guidelines to reflect upon.

You do not need to go looking to help. It happens naturally, because divine will always organizes itself to bring healing to others and the world. The person you can best assist and who requires your particular knowledge and wisdom, is either in your life now, or will appear, without any effort on your part. We attract others who have similar karmic core issues to deal with. He or she will ask for assistance — never assist without permission. It may be anyone you are in relationship with, such as a family member, romantic partner, co-worker, friend or stranger. Situations that require your assistance also manifest in your path. You will know you are called by a heightened awareness, an inflow of source energy through your body that brings your attention to the very present. Your focus in the present awakens all your outer and inner senses — vision, hearing, touch — and your feelings are quickened leading to joy, inspiration and motivation. All that you need to assist a person or situation is given to you so that you are able to give effortlessly and without your own needs being neglected.

Higher guidance always assists others with love. This love begins with you. Before assisting anyone, ask yourself, "Is this the most loving choice I can make for myself in the moment?" If you feel as though you are giving something up, or doing something you don't want to, then you are not being lead by divine guidance, but by your ego. If giving your time and attention feels like it would bring you joy and happiness, then you are coming from a higher source.

Sometimes we assist others because we want to feel important or needed. It may temporarily give us a false sense of purpose. Or we may wrongly believe that in order to be a spiritual person we should help others. Martyrdom, or the sacrifice of self, is always the guidance of the ego, seeking to make itself lovable. It believes that if we love someone else by helping him or her, then we can be worthy of love. We don't need to do anything to be worthy of love.

Remember that it is not what you say to another person that assists. It is the energy with which you do it (see my article on Energy Vibrational Signatures - http://www.spiritweb.com/Spirit/energy-signatures-jorgensen.html). If you are feeling irritable and begrudging your assistance, yet trying to act as though you don't feel this way, your assistance will be of little benefit. You will in fact be modeling to the other person that they too should deny themselves self-love. Go inside and speak to your higher self and ask, "Is there something I need to do to assist with love? Or am I not to act at this time?" Sometimes we need to surrender to the love of our higher self, or spend more time assisting ourselves first. Or, it may be that we are not the best person to give assistance, or the timing isn't right. Sometimes not helping someone is the best thing we can do to help. Trust your feelings and inner guidance.

The new human assists by never setting him or herself up as a master or guru. No one ever helps another if one's imperfections are hidden, denied or edited out of conversations when experience is being shared. The purpose of all your experiences — painful or joyous — is to share them with others, so that they may feel less alone and know that what they are experiencing is 'normal.' Of course, sometimes your inner guidance may suggest to you not to share sometimes with someone in a given situation — but do an inner check to make sure that you are not afraid of losing self-worth in the eyes of another. And when it is time to speak, do so without guilt, shame or apology. Simply speak the truth of your experience as it is.

If you put yourself on a pedestal, you deny others their divinity.

The new human assists others to discover their own truths and insights, and inner divine guidance. No one person has 'the truth.' We must all follow our own path and truth. Telling others what to do is not assistance — it is ego hiding as love, looking for power and validation of self. Assistance involves validating another person's experience and feelings by listening and sharing your own, and then facilitating him or her to discover their emotional and mental patterns and karmic core issues. Because you have been down that road, you can help light the way, by describing your own process.

Assistance is given by the new human by speaking to the higher self of the other.

When speaking to someone in conflict, see him or her through the inner eyes of your higher self. This helps to maintain your own connection to your source, so that your assistance is always from love. Imagine that you are speaking to their higher self as you interact. The energy of your projection stirs awareness of their divine nature. This also ensures that you are treating the other as though they are already healed, and with implicit trust in their ability to work through their issues. Know that he or she is on their healing journey at every given point — just as you are — and in your mind’s eye see them as whole and complete.

Pay attention to your feelings while you assist another. Our feelings inform us if defense mechanisms are interfering with our assistance. If you ever feel that someone is pulling you in, check to see where in your body it is located — in which chakra has a chord been attached to you by them to feed off your energy? If you ever feel drained after an interaction, it is because you have enabled him or her to depend upon you to help them, instead of guiding them to find their own assistance and inner source of power. Other energetic experiences may include a push/pull sensation, an attack of knife-like energy (from anger), or simply a lack of any energetic connection. Ask your inner guidance what to do, and if necessary, excuse yourself from the interaction until you know how to handle it, or the person has become more grounded in their own energy. Sometimes it is as simple as holding your hands over your third chakra and going through a grounding exercise with him or her. Or you may need to reassure him or her that you respect who they are and will not betray them.

Divine guidance allows you to sense the energetic interactions taking place between you and others and how to interpret it.

It may be perceived from an inner seeing, hearing or feeling. When it does, make sure you ask your higher self how to interpret the information, and if this insight could be shared with the other. Divine guidance also draws upon your own experiences to perceive the other's blue print of emotional/mental patterning. These usually lead to revelations about the major core issues they are dealing with at any given point, and by describing these to someone, you may assist the other to understand him or herself in a new way. If information is received from your higher self and the other person gives you permission to share it, then remind them to only accept what resonates with him or her as true.

Sometimes assisting others may trigger new issues in us that need to be observed and surrendered, or we may open up to our own divine guidance in a deeper way. The distinction between assisting and receiving assistance is another dualism which, in spiritual practice, dissolves.

The new human assists others without taking responsibility for the other's healing, and lets go of results. So often people say, "I don't want to dump on you." When this happens, I remind the other person that I will not take on their feelings or shoulder the responsibility for them, but I will willingly lend an empathetic ear. Usually people who are afraid of dumping on others are used to taking responsibility for other people's feelings, and therefore believe they will deplete your energy by sharing with you. People who do attempt to make you responsible for their feelings don't usually hesitate to, or worry about how you might feel. And after talking I remind the other person that any choices they make are up to them, and that they must do what they feel is right. I let go of any need on my part to control them or see particular results, because I know that they are powerful and divine beings who know what their path is. And I trust in the divine and cooperative nature of the universe to let all things unfold.

Assisting others as a new human, from a place of divine guidance, is a creative, joyous and often surprising experience. We discover that our relationships triggered our issues to help us to heal not only our own false core beliefs, but to assist others in the healing process. The more you are able to trust your own inner guidance while assisting someone, the more helpful you will be, and the more you will continue to grow and develop your relationship with all that is.

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This article concludes my series on New Age Relationships. My writings on relationships began several years ago out of necessity – I needed to understand my relationship patterns or remain in a state of 'soul sickness.' Putting my thoughts together in this series has been an effective therapy, and from the wonderful letters of support I have received, it simultaneously helped others to validate what they already know. It brings me joy and fulfillment to know that the pain and suffering I have experienced in relationships has had a greater purpose. My wish is that you may all develop an intimate relationship with your higher self, and always attract relationships that mirror your wholeness and perfection.

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