Fear often originates from a sense of not being in control. We use control to manage people, things, and situations that we do not understand or that threaten to expose our lack of Self-love. If we accepted people, things, and situations for what they are, we would be back to the universal definition of love; hence, love is the opposite of fear. That we can control anything is an illusion but one to which we strongly cling. Love is at the level of true Self while fear is an emotion, and all emotions exist at the human level. We trade the experience of love for the emotion of fear and inhibit our abilities to co-create and manifest. We cannot simultaneously love and fear something or someone. This is a subtle form of physical versus Spirit consciousness that we explored in step 2.

If we wish to manifest whatever we want that is in our best and highest good, it stands to reason that we need to love more and fear less. The first step is to identify when fear is present. We all know pure fear. What is not so readily evident is that fear undergoes a metamorphosis into other emotions such as anger, suspicion, frustration, or anxiety. Whenever one of these emotions is present, trace it back to the fact that it is really fear at work.

For example, a neighbor comments that he thinks that you could do a better job of keeping your front lawn tidy in "conformance to neighborhood standards." You feel a rush of adrenaline, a quickening respiration, and thoughts about driving across his lawn in the middle of the night with a truck. Most of us would describe this emotional state as anger. Now, consider where the anger comes from. You are being criticized because someone else doesn't like your lawn. Does this mean that he thinks that you are not much of a person because your lawn is not to his satisfaction? What does it mean about you, the person (the Self), that your lawn (a physical thing) does not come up to someone else's standards? It takes on the meaning for most of us that we are inferior because our lawn is judged as being inferior. We fear that our lack of Self-love has been exposed. Now "they" see behind our façade. Our cover is blown.

The fact is that our fear of the exposure of our self-imposed inadequacy got associated with the lawn and our anger over the criticism of our lawn became a focal point to draw attention away from our lack of Self-love. This dynamic occurs over and over, and each time it happens, we do not make a withdrawal from our Spiritual savings account. To convert fear into love, try these steps:

Recognize the negative emotion and trace it back to fear.
Understand that what you are fearing is really your lack of Self-love being revealed or discovered by someone.
Look into your past as far as you can for what happened that originally attacked your Self-love. This is often referred to as a wound.
Understand that whatever happened was independent of your true Self, and the people involved were acting out of who they were being at the time and not because of you. You may have been physically in the middle of whatever occurred, but what happened was not your fault. You were perfect then and have been perfect since.
Forgive yourself for having suppressed your Self-love in favor of someone else's judgment or opinion about who you are. What others think is not relevant. If you truly experience the sense of forgiveness, then you will have healed that particular wound and can now love what happened instead of fearing. This is one example of transformation.

To make this transformation complete and permanent, you will need to break the habits surrounding the old wound, i.e., to catch yourself becoming angry because of the conditioning that you have around that type of event. If you identify the negative emotion and remember the healing, you can instantly move from the negative emotion to love. The more that you do this, the old fear-based habit will give way to love and your Spiritual savings account will begin to fill.

The methods described above will enable you to change (not eliminate) your relationship to fear. We cannot become fearless. Fear is wired into the biochemistry of our bodies. On the level of physical fear (when we are threatened with or actually physically attacked), fear has enabled humanity to survive in a seemingly hostile world. Fear has been a necessary part of physical survival. With Tyrannosaurus Rex bearing down on one of our ancestors, fear provided that extra amount of strength, speed, and agility to save Great, Great, Great Uncle Ugg from becoming dinner. Those same physiological reactions are present in our modern bodies and respond just as strongly to psychological fears as they do to physical fears.

The difference is that we create our psychological fears while T-Rex was real. Our bodies treat them the same and do not know the difference. Thus, if we are to change our relationship with psychological fear, it is necessary to find the source of the fear and heal it. As mentioned in step 8 of this series, there are support groups and coaches who can lead you through the healing process. Healing takes work and commitment. There are no shortcuts or quick fixes. The benefits of healing the past include not only an enhanced ability to manifest, they include having harmony and peace in your life as well as becoming clear about why you are here on Earth and your mission while you are here.

Healing your past is the greatest gift that can you give to yourself and the world.

Preparation

List any questions that arose from the preceding background material. Leave some room below them to write answers.

Now, without using analysis, logic, or “common sense” answer each of the questions that you wrote. Let your intuition or “uncommon sense” guide you in your answers. If need be, answer from the perspective that you are creating answers to your questions, and whatever you create is true. You may find that your sense of this lesson deepens and that more questions arise. To find answers to them, use this same procedure. Continue asking and answering until your curiosity is stilled. Use additional sheets of paper if needed. When you are complete with the Preparation, read the instructions for the Experience.

Experience

For this experience, choose one area of your life in which you frequently experience fear. It does not have to be a big fear, although if you choose a major fear area, that would be great. Write what the area is along with what triggers the fear, for example, if you fear speaking in public (the number one fear in the US), are your feelings of fear triggered by the mere idea of speaking in front of others? Or does the fear occur when you are ready to go to the front of the room and begin speaking?

Now apply the five steps from the Background above to healing this fear:

Recognize the negative emotion and trace it back to fear. Write down your initial emotion (if it is not fear, then trace it to its root in fear) and record what you are fearing.
Understand that what you are fearing is really your lack of Self-love being revealed or being discovered by someone. Write down your thoughts about that possibility.
Look into your past as far back as you can for what happened that originally attacked your Self-love. This is often referred to as a wound. Describe what happened to create the wound.
Understand that whatever happened was independent of your true Self, and the people involved were acting out of who they were being at the time and not because of you. Please describe your thoughts about your understanding.
Forgive yourself for having suppressed your Self-love in favor of someone else's judgment or opinion about who you are. Write, then say aloud, "I forgive myself for suppressing my Self-love in the matter of…"

Validation

For one day, carry a small notebook with you. In it record every conscious instance of when you felt a negative emotion. You need not try to heal the emotions - simply be aware of them and write them down as they occur.

The next day, preferably in the morning, read what you wrote the previous day. See each of the instances of having a negative emotion as a loss of an opportunity to contribute to your Spiritual savings account. If you are a normal person and have made a conscientious effort at recording your negative emotions, you should find on reading what you wrote an enormous opportunity to heal your past and gain the benefits of doing so.

Remember that each of those negative emotions can be traced back to fear - the fear that your lack of Self-love is about to be exposed. That someone will see that you are not the perfect person you want to project to the world because you do not see the perfect person within you that is already there. When you realize and accept the perfection of your Self, there is no need to project. Your perfection shines as a light from within.

NOTE: If you miss a step, and it is not available on this website, you can e-mail the author at venare@planetlightworker.com and receive the step via e-mail. Ron McCray is happy to answer any comments or questions that you may have about this series of seminars.

Ron McCray is a widely recognized master trainer, author, and coach in the application of Spiritual principles to everyday life. A former executive, Ron's life was dramatically affected by a Spiritual transformation which changed his life's focus from management to coaching and conducting personal development programs throughout the US. Additionally, he consults with health organizations with respect to strategic and operational initiatives.

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