EACH MOMENT BRINGS US face to face with possibilities - choices, various roads we can take. Yet most of the time we have trouble specifying a path for ourselves. Why are decisions so difficult to make?

By examining the causes of our indecisions, we are gifted with awareness. Through awareness, we achieve liberation, as we come to a place where all roads are open and perfect. We realise and accept the greatest gift of all - Free Will.

Making Decisions Concerning Our Security
To overcome our fear of change, fear of a possible negative future event, we need to target the cause. The cause is a present fear: not knowing from where we are going to draw our power (love). If we make a decision and it leads to an event where we could possibly have nowhere from which to draw power, then this will cause us pain. This is ultimately what we fear. Our indecisions in life often result from a fear of losing our power sources, as we attach externally to ensure our happiness.

What is the lesson here? The lesson is to draw power from within! This ensures your security. The power (love) within you is far greater than anything you could possibly draw from the outside world. It is infinite!

Let's think about the psychology of this. If we depend upon an externality (such as our partner) for our security/love/power, then we open ourselves to be harmed when that externality changes. When we are fearful of change, we close the doors of possibility because we are latched onto what we presently have. If, on the other hand, we harbour the power within, then we are unmoved by external events. We are fearless of changes to the outside when we know we are secure and happy within. When we are fearless, we are open to more possibilities.

Fear of risk is one of the main instigators of our indecisions. It rides alongside with the fear of change. It is our own fear of displacing our source of security (power/love).

Let us take an example and look at Leanne. Now Leanne is currently in her present job, which she despises! She goes to work, sits at her desk and feels like she would rather be any place else. The work does not challenge her mentally and she feels that if she ever did anything creative in her work it would be cause for a celebration.

Leanne has ideas popping around in her head. She wants to move into a field that is more conducive to her talents, and more importantly, her desires. She dreams for a career in the media. However, she tells herself that to change her current career and pursue such a notion is in fact a dream. Decisions! What does she do? Does she quit her present job and pursue a dream? Or does she remain in her present job, take the 4 percent pay raise this year and maintain her security?

"I can't quit, I have rent to pay! I have bills to pay!"
"I hate my job. My computer is my best friend!"
"My life is so complicated!"

We can see immediately that Leanne has got herself into a condition. She has created so many negative statements that she has lost herself within her own drama. And this is what it is - a drama that she has created. Therefore it is her own creation to change if she desires.

So, we meet with Leanne and we ask her to relax. As she takes a moment and lifts her consciousness out of the situation, Leanne finds herself outside of her drama - her movie. She looks down upon her life and slowly begins to see that she is not in such a predicament. Her life isn't the most complicated thing in the world!

Now, Leanne can see that she has two possible paths (and possibly more)! She is going to examine the two paths to clarify her thoughts. One path allows her to stay within her present job and the other allows her to leave. Neither choice is damned; neither choice is wrong. This is the ultimate realisation. Both are blessed, sacred and perfect because they are her choice. Each is an expression of the Divine.

From this higher perspective, Leanne sees the freedom in seeing the perfection of all choices. Now as she detaches, she may see that she has been allowing her fears to control her decisions or indecisions. The very fact that Leanne has an idea within her that is compelling her towards her dream (in this case the media), is a sign that Leanne wants to pursue that dream! This seems a simple choice. Yet, we almost certainly deny any resonance we feel for a path that frightens us. Our fears will march a crusade in the name of Security! We must endeavour to fight back with our own force of Wisdom, in the name of Love.

Often when we come upon a new path, a new decision, a new route in our lives, we immediately negate it with our fears. Our internal and conditioned fears immediately emerge and tell us that we can't possibly make a right decision! Our fears tell us "Stop! What are you doing! Are you sure you want to make a change? Any change you make will threaten the status quo and it is the status quo where I know where I am drawing power from!" Our fears also claim that we don't know the future so all sorts of things can happen! Yes, we don't know the future, but from where did this philosophy come that says the future outcome is more likely to be negative? This archaic philosophy only limits our world. It limits our doors of possibility and our happiness. Surely this is the opposite of what we want!

Our fears would be happy with the first of everything we come across because immediately it has discovered a source of security. But what happened before that source of security? Were we truly damned? Change is the very constant of the Universe! Embrace it!

A man who lives in thirst inside his house will continue to suffer unless he is willing to venture out and take the chance of believing that there is indeed a pond outside. He will persistently tell himself that to venture outside of his house is dangerous. He will tell himself that the rumours of a pond are in fact a mirage that people are fooling themselves into believing is real! However, the moment he steps out of his comfort zone and outside his house (his security) to actually test his theory is the moment he changes his consciousness. He has bypassed his fear and thus transmuted it. He then realises that there was always water for him to drink. It was simply his stubborn belief that things could never be kind to him that led to his own suffering.

The point here is not just about the fact that a pond existed near this man. The point is that the man attempted to believe in something his fears persistently told him couldn't be true. Through this belief, this man finds his salvation and ultimate freedom. It is when we challenge things that limit us that we are free.

As we use awareness, we see the illogic of doubt. We understand that to doubt is to enter a field of limitation. It simply serves no one. As soon as we doubt - anything - then we immediately know that we are following the logic and philosophy of a lesser being. To truly appreciate ourselves and the things that are out there for us to accomplish and embrace, we must endeavour to utilise the logic and philosophies of a higher being. These philosophies reflect things that serve us, not attack us - obviously!

Choose to Believe in Yourself
So, when we are faced with a cross-road of paths, we endeavour to understand what it is we are feeling that is making our indecision so intense. If it is our fear of a probable negative future event, then it is something which states our insecurity in the present. It is something which highlights our attachment to externalities as well as our fear of handling negative situations. Here, we endeavour to look within for our happiness. If you are presently unhappy with a part of your life but feel that to change would cause instability and upset your security, then it is your security that must be questioned. You already have wings to fly if you so choose. We ask ourselves, "If we take flight, who will cushion us if we fall? Will our wings actually work? Yes, we've seen them work with other people but why should they work with us? Surely something will go wrong!"

Believe in yourself! Believe in your own capability. Believe in your ability to handle situations. Is this such a hard concept? Yes. It is hard because you have persistently told yourself (as others have persistently told you), that you are weak, insecure, inferior, or incapable. These all formulate theories within your subconscious mind that you are those things and worse. These theories then affect every thought, decision, action and feeling you have in life.

So, begin by changing the way you approach yourself. See yourself as capable of anything, for if you truly understood the scope of your power you would laugh at your disbelief in yourself. You would instead find it unbelievable that you had any form of doubt over what you could accomplish. You would stop fretting over whether or not you are capable of doing something and instead explore the infinite array of all that you can do. You would realise that the Universe is your oyster, to mould and shape and utilise for your own pleasure. It is you. Children are a prime example here. Being so close to the Divine, they do not fret over decisions they have made or have yet to make because they understand the perfection in all things. And so, they learn and experience happiness at incredible rates.

To counteract our inability to make decisions, we must endeavour to realise this crucial truth: "Whatever I choose is right!" There is deep meaning to this. It means that we not only trust the Universe that everything is perfect but we also trust ourselves.

As you realise the perfection in all your decisions, choose paths that serve you! The directions we are led to are the ones we resonate with. They are the directions that leave us feeling freer, more open, creative and happy. The directions or paths that leave us miserable, frustrated and trapped are obviously signs that something is not working! All paths are open to you. Whichever path you take is up to you, they will all lead to your goal if your intent is pure and your decision is aligned with your heart. If you feel good about a decision then you know it is the right one for you. You resonate with the response. If you feel that a decision will leave you freer and take you away from unhappiness then you know that that decision is for you. However, whether you "know" or not is really irrelevant in the end because all paths will merge towards your own as you begin to align yourself more and more with your heart and intentions!

The Universe always serves you because you are the Universe! When you make your choices you become one with all that is around you. You embrace your fundamental birthright as a Creator and you also embrace what you have created before you. For you create for yourself the fork in the road. It is a gift, not a curse! You offer yourself alternate ways of travelling. If indeed another path did serve you slightly better - fear not! That was meant to be and a part of your learning!

You are constantly creating! You are constantly making decisions, whether you realise it or not! Enjoy the ride that is life. It is a free ride and it will twist and turn and loop and barrel. Fear not this ride, for it is a ride of your own, unique calibration. You are not only the train driver but also the passenger. Allow the train to flow with your surroundings and intentions. Travel with your train and allow it to flow onto different tracks or stay on the same one - it is all your choice. But remember one thing: if your intention is pure, the train will reach the same destination, whichever track you are on.

As you make your decisions, know that all results are neutral until you react. It is how you react that defines the decision's polarisation. Are you going to make that experience positive or negative? Raise your vibration even higher and see the compassion in all things; realise the purpose of everything. Everything has purpose of growth; so, whatever the result, it is going to serve you. Everything is meant to be.

Everything is meant to be... This is almost always misunderstood to mean that everything that occurs must be deserved. This is not so! It means that everything is meant to be - everything has purpose. That purpose is growth. So-called 'bad' things that happen to us have purpose of growth, making us happier in the outcome through our learning. So-called 'good' things that occur to us also have purpose of growth, as we enjoy and understand the meaning of happiness.

The lesson here is to realise that all paths are perfect. It is only our own labelling and polarised minds that attempt to box things into right and wrong, good and bad. We attempt to see one path as good and another as bad. Life is not as simple as black and white! Life is Gold. It is an endless array of sunshine in all directions. Whichever ray you decide to walk upon, it will always shine beneath your feet and take you to your goals, if you believe in yourself.

This is what the path is all about! It is not about the path at all! It is about YOU. It is about how you react to situations and experiences. Whatever comes your way is really irrelevant; it is how you react that defines your experience. Remember the saying, "Life is 10% what you experience and 90% how you react to it."

So, now, do you choose to allow your life experiences to control you or do you control your life experiences? Everything you experience in life is an experience defined by how you choose to experience it!

To truly live in this world is to make decisions. To truly embrace life is to embrace the ultimate gift - the gift of Free Will/ Free Choice. This gift is your Divine birthright allowing you to literally choose what you experience.

There is no 'wrong' inside you. If you see yourself as anything less than Whole and Holy, it is an illusion. You are incapable of fallacy, for you are an expression of the Divine - expanding Universal Consciousness through your magical explorations (choices) in your life. Each choice heralds new opportunity and learning whatever the result. Every decision you make is a pure, correct, blessed and divine choice because it has been made by a Sacred Being... You!

You have wings; you always have had and always will. It is up to you to use them or not. THAT is your choice.

Free Yourself, Love Yourself.

©2006, Vaz Sriharan

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Vaz Sriharan is a writer, healer and counsellor living in London, England. Born with an intense feeling of purpose, he battled with depression for nearly twenty years. Over time, he taught himself both psychology and spirituality in an effort to find answers to the problems that plagued him. He now uses this blend of psycho-spirituality as well as his innate empathic abilities as a teacher and healer to help awaken others to their Divine heritage. Vaz welcomes comments, questions and expression at: planetvaz@hotmail.com.