November

Sharyl Jackson is Section Editor for CHILDREN OF THE NEW EARTH. A former public school teacher, turned tax accountant, Sharyl is mother to many grown children, and host of a weekly meditation group in Seattle, Washington. Sharyl has dedicated her life to humanity, especially children, to the earth and to bringing forth the Love and Words of God. Sharyl and Claudia Smith are in the process of creating their website TheOneNewEarth (TONE) and have an on-line e-group dedicated to earthwork, assisting those in transition, welcoming new children, sharing information in a timely fashion, healing and balancing, personal empowerment, and doing their part in the creation of the Communities of Light. Their goal is to live, anchor and spread Unity consciousness wherein all are honored as the pieces of God that they are. Sharyl is available for private spiritual counseling sessions regarding parenting, personal empowerment or just about anything you wish to discuss. She is adept at creating and holding a safe space for you to find your personal truth while offering intuitive, sometimes channeled, always loving, guidance and insight. Feel free to contact Sharyl at sclaus11@hotmail.com.

Hi Sharyl,

I knew about Indigos though our meditation group in Bangkok, Thailand where we are living at the moment, and I have read the book too. I think I have an Indigo child because she fits the description. She is nine years old, very small in size and looks like an old soul. She predicts like an oracle. She gathers information and talks like a philosopher. She advises and seems to know of crystals and loves crystals when she meditates. She seems to know what happens after death.

She is highly spiritual, talks to God, prays very hard. She knows her mission in life, says academics are not important for her, but has a mission to complete.

She says that she is here to protect me and I will always be with her. I know she is a divine child as this child was given to me by a Goddess in my dream when I conceived her. I am a Malaysian and my daughter has never been to India but she insists I take her there. You would not believe it! I saw the special place in India when I had the dream of my child.

She has a tough time in school as she has dyslexia. She has bad memories of early school life in Malaysia where teachers used to beat her for her stubbornness. Now that she is in the International School she enjoys school and the teachers seem to connect to her well. Many of them are spiritual, actually looking like the chosen ones. These teachers are amazed at her imagination and thinking capabilities. I have been asked to write what she says and I have been recording them. As she is maturing you can see her mission becoming clearer.

I do not get along with my mother no matter how hard I try. My mother never appreciates me, but my daughter does so she is like a link to me.

This is what I like to share with you. I am studying Special Needs and want to specialize in Dyslexia. My daughter keeps saying I have to learn from her and I realize because of her I am doing this course and I will understand Dyslexic children through her.

She says her real mother is God and I am only her helper, but she loves me like a mother too and she talks of going home and how wonderful it is.

I hope I am not boring you too much. That's all for now. Let me tell you who we are. We are Malaysians of Indian origin and we are Hindus. My daughter loves to behave like a Buddhist in a Buddhist temple, a Christian In Church, a Hindu in a Hindu temple.

Thank you for listening to me,

Lots of Love, Mala

Dear Sharyl,

Thank you for your long sharing in 'Mothers" especially part two. I reread it just now and I realized that your dream about the kidnappers suddenly explained to me my own. My mother died on the 6th of this month and some 12 days later I experienced something like a dream but with a little more consciousness than a real one.

I was walking after dark through a small tunnel and got waylaid by a group of young men. They laid their hands on me with the intention to rape me. I stayed completely calm and started reciting aloud the most powerful prayer: the Gayatri Mantra! Inwardly I looked on as from a little distance. I even felt a little bit amused to watch how perplexed they were that they had their hands on my body and could not even move them because of the prayer! At some point I managed to call for help and a man appeared which made them release me. The man was Sathya Sai Baba, but He appeared as someone from the beginning of this century: Long black coat, a square-ish hat and dark rimmed glasses. He took me under his arm and coat and we left. I do not remember what happened to the men, I think he gave them a scolding or so.

Today I am delighted with your dream explaining mine! I had a very difficult relationship with my mother. My experience was that she was always fighting who I was, I was never good enough. She did not respect me and my wishes, I had to drop everything and run at her orders regardless of what I wanted and or was doing. The emotional blackmail was the worst, and it took me many years of therapy to get over as well as human therapists and powerful love from our Beloved Higher Ones. Somewhere along the line of years I experienced in a meditation how 'she' raped me with hatred and killed me in a lifetime long ago. That explained why I always felt 'raped' emotionally and verbally. At the same time I realized that I must have had my share in provoking this rape and this made me understand that what we really felt for each other was deep fear. She was religious, so that we had in common, but my Path of surrender to God as a way of life especially pulled us through.

I prayed her over the threshold when the moment of passing was there, so it all ended in God's Love and Perfection. This fills me with gratitude of course! The Gayatri Mantra, my faith as a rock, was your 'credit' card. 'Credit' comes from "credere" Latin for: "to believe"!

Like you I feel that I have fulfilled and completed my lineage from both sides, a lineage of neurotic, often unhappy people as well as a long lineage of church ministers. I have been a Course in Miracles teacher for over twelve years .My ancestors have supported me, I am sure, and I have found all the answers they have been struggling for all their God devoted lives. Thank you again for your help in explaining this weird dream! It is now profoundly meaningful!

With Love,
Constance

I am in the Netherlands at the moment, but I live in Ghana. Your words go all over the globe!

Dear Constance:

Thank you for your kind words and your moving letter. I am especially touched by your explanation of the "credit" having its derivation in "to believe."

This clearing of the lineages is a powerful action at this particular time. I see very clearly that one of the things virtually all of us incarnate at this time have in our "contracts" is to clear the lineages. I am seeing and hearing it over and over with those in my circle, but each in a highly personal and unique way. Thank you so much for sharing yours with us.

My condolences on the passing of your mother. My congratulations on your depth of understanding.

Love and blessings, Sharyl

Sharyl:

I was browsing the website and came across the articles on Indigos. My daughters are both Indigos. Theresa, 30, is an older Indigo, born to me when I was 24/25 and Aubrey, born to me when I was 46. Some age difference, huh? Well, I have to say, that I am blessed with both of them. However, I find myself in a different situation with my younger child than I was with my older daughter. And, she is different. (9 yrs. old) There are times that I find myself feeling so overwhelmed with frustration at my younger child, that I do not know what to do, literally, I find I am shaking and quaking with inner struggles with this child. She is bright, outgoing, demanding, and being a single mother, who is 55, working as a legal secretary 40 hrs. per week, traveling the freeway back and forth from work to home, I find I am not as patient as I should be. Well, she has lately been so money oriented; I just don't know what to do. I have to "control" constantly my inner angers. Sometimes, I end up "yelling" at her, and hating myself afterwards. I don't want to continue in this vicious circle, however, I just don't feel like I'm "getting anywhere" with her understanding where I am coming from. Last night, I made her listen to me so she would understand how difficult financially our situation is now that we have a condo, and not an apartment. More bills, etc. Being the Queen/Princess that she is, she expects everything, and NOW. If she doesn't get it, she cries. Thus, you see my dilemma.

I certainly do not want to end up with a terrible preteen relationship between us. My older daughter was much easier, even though she went through difficulties. She has ended up being my best friend. But this one, I just don't know how we will ever connect so she understands - she doesn't seem to "want to" understand. Yet, she is the brightest in her classes, advanced in her thinking, overly mature in her tastes, and doesn't tolerate any judgementalness from me when she sees me acting or speaking wrongly. She constantly calls me on my mistakes...she is definitely my teacher and I am hers, but the stress is killing me! Help! I would greatly appreciate any suggestions. However, don't tell me to see a counselor, ok, because I've been that route. This is on a spiritual level and needs awareness on that level. Emotionally, this is my big test in this lifetime. I have no relationship at the time being, and that could be adding to the difficulties within me. Anyway, enough of my rambling. I thank you in advance for your discernment and insight towards this message. Namaste.

Blessings,

Kathy

Dear Kathy:

Well, you do know how to fill your plate, don't you? I will try my best not to patronize you with fuzzy new age answers that mean very little in a practical sense, but without observing your interactions, it will not be easy for me to offer advice.

First, it may in fact be a blessing that you are not in a romantic relationship right now...this time's for you, so to speak, and you may not want yourself distracted by a "relationship!"

You may have read in one of the articles I wrote that I often had to tell my Capricorn twin daughters that I was the mother this time. Actually I still have to tell them from time to time and they are 21 years old. It feels to me that you have allowed yourself to get into a defensive posture in that you feel you must defend yourself to your daughter. Explaining to her the reality of the situation is quite different than feeling you have to defend yourself. Is there anything that you feel guilty about in relationship to your younger daughter? Nothing short of complete honesty with yourself and your daughter is required.

Get clear with your inner self just what you are worried or scared about before you get ready to have a serious conversation with your daughter. If you are not in Truth within yourself, she will immediately know it and call you on it. So do your very best to tell her your true feelings and enlist her help in finding a way to make your relationship feel better to you. Point out that nonjudgement goes both ways, that you are the mother and you are both teachers to each other. She is pointing out ways to you every day where you are unaware of how your true self does not line up with what your project. There is also much for you to teach her about compassion, tact and diplomacy.

As you say, this is a spiritual journey, so call upon the Higher Selves of both you and your daughter to find solutions that are in the highest good of all. Also ask angels, guidance for assistance and expect nudges for ways for you stand in your Truth and your power, so as not to feel "at the effect of" your daughter's apparent tyranny.

Love and blessings, Sharyl

Sharyl:

I am ALWAYS talking and asking of my Higher Guides and Angels... there is no loss of communication between them and me. However, Sharyl, sometimes, I don't get anything back, or so it seems, I don't "hear" anything coming back to me. There are many, many times that I am awoke at 3:00 a.m. for discourse, and for personal instructions about my life and my activities. However, lately, I'm not getting anything. And, I don't feel that I'm blocked... sometimes I think they want me to make mistakes. But thank you very much for your wonderful advice. It is helpful to get a third person's take on situations. Aubrey is a Gemini, I am a Taurus. I have lots of fire in my chart, Leo rising, Moon in Sagittarius. She has Taurus rising, and lots of Gemini in her chart, lots of Gemini.... she is quite the little "smarty" - intellectually. So, I have to "reason" with her, because she doesn't like half answers or answers that don't make sense to her. And, she doesn't like a lot of emotion, either, so, as you can see.... she is a test for me sometimes. One thing we share in common is that we both have a great sense of humor, and the same kind of humor. I can rent a movie where we are both laughing hysterically at the same things. I love it! She has an uncanny connection with animals, much more so than with people. So, I see her affection for our cat, and sometimes wish she would turn that towards me more often!

Thanks again for your advice. I will print this out and read it again and again.

Sincerely,

Kathy

Dear Kathy:

I too am a Taurus with Libra rising and a Sag moon, but Mercury in Aries which means that I can hold my own most of the time with these daughters who are Capricorn with Taurus rising and Leo moon, and don't forget that there are two of them. Even when they are mad at each other, they can gang up on me!!!

One of the things that you are to help teach your daughter is about the emotional body. Yes, she is brilliant mentally, but many of the new children do not have well developed emotional bodies, so they will bring into the planet new ideas and technology and in exchange, we agree to help them learn about feelings. When you are trying to explain something to her, it is important to appeal to her intellect, her reason, but it would also be good to find ways to help her know what things feel like. Explain with reason, but then include how it feels to you.

It is okay that she cries if she can't have her way...her Self wants to feel and express those feelings.

Don't feel threatened by her intelligence...you have life experience that she does not have.

Love and blessings, Sharyl

Partial response from Kathy:

You are right. My daughter just hates it whenever I cry, and I cry whenever I am moved... and, I always tell her, it's ok to cry Aubrey. I don't know why she feels like it is a sign of weakness, but that's how she acts about it. And, of course, I'm one who advocates emotions...

Hello,

I found out about your work with Indigo Children from Jelaila Starr's website and I would like to ask for your help.

I have a son, 4 years old, who is a challenge to me. I consider myself to be very evolved spiritually. I am expressive, honest, balanced, and aware. For many years, I felt that I was an Indigo myself (I'm 23 years Old born in 1978). I am a starseed, for sure, and I know that Duncan has come here to be with me, which is why I feel so frustrated, like I'm failing him somehow. I am all the things that I think my Indigo son would need, and still I am having a hard time with him. I'd like to tell you a bit about him and see if you can help me to understand better how to relate to him.

His name is Duncan. He is 4 years old. He is BRILLIANT. He can build a 4-foot tower of blocks, stacking them symmetrically and color-coded. He can do this in just about the amount of time it takes for me to leave the room to go to the bathroom and come back. He communicates his feelings very well and uses words better than any child his age I have ever seen. Here are some examples of the things he says to me: "I am a king, and you will do as I say." "You can't say this/do that to me." "When I grow up, I'm going to lock you in a cage and do whatever I want." "If you don't give me this or do what I say, I'm going to spank you." At times, he can be so full of love and light and joy that it makes my heart jump up into my throat...and at times he can be so mean and stubborn he infuriates me. I can just see him playing with my emotions, trying anything he can think of to push my buttons. I resist, and he persists.... and in the end, it is too much and I give him a reaction. He has more stamina than I do for this game he wants to play. The only thing that I've noticed that works is to shut off the game, by telling him that I will not fight with him, and then ignoring him. But this is hard too, and I feel like I'm being a bad mother when I do this.

He refuses to help out around the house. He makes most of the mess in the house, but refuses to clean anything. He demands things that he wants, but refuses to give back anything unless it is on his time schedule and if he feels in the mood at that time. No amount or form of discipline bothers him. It is like nothing affects him. He doesn't care about anything that I do as a disciplinary measure. I put him in time-out and he screams and then just shrugs his shoulders and falls asleep where he is. And then he just does the same things over and over again.

But then he comes to me sometimes, and looks me right in the eyes and says, "Mommy, I am sooo happy and I love you." Or he'll be walking >outside and he'll say "Oh, what a beautiful day. Look at that sunset," and it will melt my heart. I love him so much and it pains me so much when he is so hurtful to me. But, it pains me even MORE to think that I am not holding up to our bargain...that I am not doing for him what I am supposed to be doing for him...What can I do?

I have two other children, ages 5 (Cameron) and 2 (Shannon)...my oldest is similar in some ways, but very different in others. Cameron is brilliant with computers but his speech is not that good. He likes to please and he likes to help around the house. The dilemma I seem to keep running into is that Duncan makes all the mess, and then Cameron cleans up after him.... but then I think this isn't fair to make Cameron do all the work, so I try to punish Duncan and it doesn't work.

Duncan also refuses to potty train. I've been trying to train him since he was 2 and he refuses. He knows what to do, and he promises to tell me when he needs to go so I can help him, but when it comes time to go, he doesn't tell me and he refuses to sit on the toilet.

Can you help me understand what I can change, within myself, to help ease this tension? I would be very grateful.

Thank you,
Amy

Hello Amy:

Yup, I work with Indigos, but I surely don't have all the answers, especially without sitting and observing the interactions. However, I will make some observations and see where this goes.

You really have your hands full with three so young!!

Duncan, and in fact all Indigos, have indeed come into our lives for very good reasons. In the case of difficult parent/child interactions it is often for the parent to take better care of herself, to learn to set very clear boundaries and to find ways not to be involved in the power struggles. Your son is giving you many messages about control and power and what that all means. You say he communicates his feelings very well, but I don't see his communications about feelings at all. Rather than expressing how he feels, he is creating the world that he wants where he is in charge. Pay attention to this for a while and encourage him to express how he really feels about something, because I think he is brilliant, but has very little emotional body. He goads you into reacting because he wants to learn about it. Help him to learn about feelings and the emotional body another way. There is nothing wrong with telling him that he hurts your feelings, worries you, whatever. And for heaven's sake, stop feeling as if you have failed him...you are not at his beck and call. Let him experience frustration, let him experience what he has come here to experience. Yes, you have a contract with him, but I think it is different that you have thought it is.

No, punishment will not work. I don't even like that word, but you will have to get him more involved with consequences and what he thinks they ought to be for him. Help him to feel more powerful in his life by being part of the problem solving and decision-making. I am not saying to turn it over to him, but rather to include him.

Don't play the game with him if you don't like it! Tell him, as soon as he starts that you see what he is doing and you don't like how it feels. Talk about it, express it.

There are many articles at Planetlightworker.com which may or may not be of benefit. Check out the archives.

Thank you for writing; I am glad that you found us.

Love and blessings, Sharyl

Amy's partial reply to Sharyl's response:

I hadn't thought of this before, but now that you say it, I know you are right. He doesn't really express his true feelings to me only what he wants me to see from him. I am a very emotionally expressive person.... this may be what he needs from me...to show him how to express emotions.... usually when I ask him how he is feeling, he will tell me using words like "happy, mad, sad, scared" etc..... he usually shows me how he feels rather than tell me...but he knows how to make his demands clear, that's for sure.